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Example Of Really Bad Approach Strategy
Here’s an email I received recently…
Roosh
Recently, ive been testing out a new approach and getting sporadic results. im in israel for the summer and am seriously intent on hooking up with israeli girls. I simply approach a girl and ask her in poor, pathetic hebrew (even though im almost fluent) for her advice. I tell her im looking for a cute, sweet israeli but have only found skanks. I ask if she can offer any advice. This worked on a waitress and i went out with her a couple times. other girls are simply not feeling it.
How would u suggest i tighten/tweak this approach? Do u think its better to begin the conversation in english and then transition to hebrew?
My Answer:
Your opener sucks. Why would you be trashing “skanks” to girls you want to have fast sex with? It decreases attraction instead of building it. Tease and use humor and instead.
“Hi how are you. Do you know a good place where I can get _______?” Ask for some food, good hummus, whatever.
She’ll answer. Then you say…
“Also by the way i’m here for a short time. I’m looking for a nice wife…. can you maybe lead me to the right coffee shop where I can find one?” Then you smile so she knows you are joking.
She’ll laugh and you say, “No i’m just kidding but i don’t know many people here. This city is interesting though…”
Then ramble from there. Try a couple approaches in bad Hebrew and a couple in English to see which works better. Work off that and don’t email me back until you get some action.
Approaching is the hardest part of the game. There is nothing natural or easy about walking up to a girl you don't know and talking to her in a way that makes her laugh, builds attraction, and ends with her giving you her phone number.
After approaching hundreds of different girls with all types of openers, I finally settled on two that are my "defaults," meaning they are powerful enough that I can use them regardless of the girl or the environment. I share them in my book Bang, along with others you can use for bars, clubs, daytime spots, and even the gym. It has 64 pages on Early Game that focus exclusively on the approach and what to say immediately after. I share dozens of conversation tips with tons of word-for-word examples, and I also teach you the concept of threads to keep the interaction going without having awkward silences.
You can take the time to make up openers on your own, experimenting over the next several months, or you can learn mine and get started using something that works off the bat. If you want to learn my favorite natural openers that are easy to use and actually work, click here to learn more about my book Bang today.
Simple Move To Defeat Bedroom Resistance
Here’s a simple move I came up with in Colombia, a place where the girls put up a lot of boner-busting resistance before the bang.
If you’re in bed with a girl for a while and keep hitting a wall, say the following:
“How about we take a quick nap?”
What girl refuses a nap? After messing around for a while you both will be in half-sleep mode anyway.
Then after a couple minutes say, “I don’t sleep in my jeans though.”
Take off your jeans without waiting for her to respond. Then say, “You sleep in your jeans? They’re uncomfortable, no?”
Most girls will then reluctantly take off their jeans, maybe adding a “But we’re not doing anything” comment. Agree with her. If she is hesitant to take them off, say, “You can take off your jeans but I don’t want you to get too excited because I just want to sleep a little.”
The whole point of this is getting those jeans off because subsequent dry humping with only boxers and panties will turn her on more than jean-on-jean dry humping. The odds of sex happening when she gets down to her panties is extremely high (I estimate 80%). Try it.
While it’s essential you know how to talk to a girl and make her feel attracted to you, it’s even more important to know the little tricks and moves that get her clothes off as efficiently as possible. This is what I call being “sleazy.” It pays to be a sleazy because the girl is not going to do it for you unless she’s exceptionally drunk or slutty.
In my book Bang I teach you all my escalation moves that increase the chances of you getting the bang. I even give you an exact line to use when you want to get the condom without making the moment awkward. Click here to read my condom line on the Bang homepage.
18 Reasons Why You Don’t Get Laid
1. You don’t know how to tell a story in a way that gets a girl’s imagination going.
You don’t know how to share interesting experiences that not only make her wish she was there with you, but also make her want to be with you in future stories as well.
2. You’re too needy.
You’re like an old woman who constantly needs attention. You freak out if a girl doesn’t call back right away. You worry when there is nothing to worry about.
3. You don’t know how to build attraction.
You don’t know what a girl’s buttons are. You don’t know how to talk to her in a way that makes her more interested in you as time goes on.
4. You haven’t optimized your look.
Have you taken the time with different hair and beard configurations, or do you still look the same as five years ago, wearing that same shirt with the stain on the sleeve? You don’t need model good-looks to have sex with pretty girls.
5. You don’t drink.
Alcohol is a magical drug that makes getting laid significantly easier, and I’m not talking about getting girls drunk. Just one drink increases the chance you will get laid about 20%. Three drinks in her system is all you need.
6. You don’t work out.
You’re a fright to look at naked. You don’t have to be a meathead, but if you feel good about your body then you’ll feel good about yourself, and this comes across in a positive attitude with girls you talk to.
7. You’re a pussy.
You don’t want to get rejected. You don’t understand that guys who get the most women also get rejected the most.
8. You don’t know how to make a girl laugh.
Two types of humor work well on girls: sarcasm (not the biting kind) and fake answers. An example of the latter: “You want to know what I do? Well I’m living off the land right now. Yeah I have a farm. I grow tomatoes. Do you like tomatoes?”
9. You have an extreme deformity that hopefully can be fixed with either hard work (obesity) or surgery (gigantic nose).
Modern science has come a long way.
10. You don’t have confidence.
You don’t look in the mirror and like what you see. You don’t believe that you were meant to sleep with lots of girls. You’ve given up and sloth around playing video games or poker, praying and hoping that maybe one day you’ll get lucky instead of doing the work necessary to be an interesting, confident man that girls like.
11. You limit your prospect pool by only going after girls at work or in your meager social circle.
You think the only way to get a girl is to have some sort of prior introduction. You’ve never tried walking up to her cold in a bar, coffee shop, or bookstore.
12. You believe you need to be friends with a girl first.
You think that a girl has to see you as a buddy before she can see you as a lover. Unfortunately there is no animal lust in friendship. By being friends first, you almost guarantee that that’s all you’ll ever be.
13. You do dinner dates.
They greatly decrease your chances of getting action. Not only does all that food impede the absorption of the wine (see number five), but you’re sitting far away from her, unable to touch. Do drink dates instead where you can sit right next to her as that alcohol takes hold.
14. You’re not persistent.
You give up way too easily. You don’t understand that you may need to get rejected a few dozen times before you come across a girl that likes you. Maybe more. Second to not even trying, giving up too early is the most common mistake guys make.
15. Your breath reeks.
It doesn’t matter how fun or good-looking you are, but if your breath smells then you’re not getting anything.
16. You have limited life experiences.
It’s hard to hold a conversation with a women if all you know about is sports. You can fake it a bit if you’re a voracious reader, but the best way to talk about interesting things is to do interesting things. Chances are that doesn’t involve a computer or television.
17. You’re cheap.
You need to pay to play. This means keeping up a presentable appearance and going to places where the women are. Even the cheapest drinks at happy hour bars are going to cost you money, and many of those dates will not result in sex. Unless you’re in Thailand paying $10 a bang you’re going to have to get used to the idea that it costs money to get laid. Just don’t confuse this with showing off your money to women. If you’re interesting and make a girl laugh, she won’t care you’re poor in order to have sex with you, though she may not see you as long-term potential.
18. You’re not cool.
Do other people not want to hang out with you? Do they dislike your company? Do people make fun of you behind your back? Do you have trouble maintaining friendships? Do you look or dress like an idiot? While the definition of being cool depends on where you live, it does involve a degree of fitting into society, as the girls you will be trying to bang live in said society as well. If you’re going to be uncool, then you will have to hang in places where uncool girls are and try to get with them (e.g. goth bar).
To improve your game sometimes it’s more important to stop doing bad things than to learn a new routine or opener. It’s better to be just a normal guy who can have a conversation than a socially awkward reject who turns women off. I learned this during my seven year quest to learn game, where I methodically broke down all my behaviors and noted what worked and what didn’t. I compiled all that into my inexpensive book Bang, which teaches you everything I’ve learned from meeting girls to how to approach them to dating strategy to sealing the deal and a lot more. Within only two months I think you will see a huge difference in how women respond to you. Check out sample pages of Bang today before you buy.
My Second Book: A Dead Bat In Paraguay
Finally, my follow-up to Bang has been published. It’s called A Dead Bat In Paraguay, and is a memoir about my six-month adventure through South America where I searched for life meaning and foreign women. If you’ve ever thought about quitting your job and taking a long trip to exotic places (while trying to bang the local women in the process), then I think it’s for you. Here is the website…
I tried to make the website fun and interesting by tossing in important life and travel quotes I’ve stumbled on.
At the top of my new book’s web site you’ll find a two-minute overview of the book. You’ll also find a synopsis and a link to three excerpts, things I hope will help you decide if you think the book is for you or not. And like with Bang, you can get your money back if you happen to not like it (impossible I say!).
Check out two reviews written by bloggers who’ve read the book.
If you’re a fan of Bang then I think you’ll like A Dead Bat In Paraguay because I go into detail about how it’s like to pick up in foreign countries. It’s not a straight-up textbook like Bang, but you’ll walk away with a lot of tips and hopefully a more enlightened perspective.