What To Do When A Girl Flakes On You

Here’s a question I received recently. It’s a long read but worth it because you will likely face this type of scerario.

I need some advice regarding a girl i just met, and i have no clue what to do now. so this is what has happened so far. i was out with some friends this past friday night at some random club, and a group of girls were walking right by us. i tapped the girl who was right next to me and used my new opener, which has been working great. “hey…my friend thinks you’re italian…i think you’re irish…who’s right?” she smiled and said “im irish”.

so we began talking a little and i asked her if she wanted to dance. she agreed and we began grinding (we were standing by the dance floor anyway). while we were dancing, i held her tight and put my face next to hers…i could feel it happening. within moments we were making out, tongue and all.

i asked her if she wanted to sit down, and we went to some nearby bench and began making out heavily, and i was rubbing my hand down her entire leg..and thigh. she asked me if i wanted a shot of tequilla and we went ahead and got one. we came and sat down again and made out for a while, and this time i put my hand into her skirt and attempted to do some finger action. she said “you know im on my period…” so i laughed and slowed down.

i asked for her number and she gave it to me. so we continued kissing for a while and talking. i asked her what she found physically attractive in a guy. she said she went more for personality, and mentioned that she was really impressed that i was in medical school.

so we were hanging out for some time and then she wanted to go see her friends for a little so i went to look for my friends. they wanted to leave the club so i called the girl on her cell and she told me where she was, and then i found her and kissed her goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “ur.sexy” and i text her asking if her and her friends wanted to go out with me and my friends. she texts me back saying something like…”definitely ..we’re down!..call me!”

so saturday comes and i call her around 5ish pm and leave a msg and she texts me back saying shes at work. we continue texting back and forth and she says shell be out by 11pm and out at the bars at 1am. so eventually late at night i call her and she tells me which bar shes at. i bring my friend along and again we talk, get some drinks, and soon start making out by the bar.

later we go for a walk around the block and make out..again..and i put my hands in her pants and she starts moaning and grinding her hips. so we continued walking and talking and kissing and time flew quick. we talked about going on a date to dinner and movies, and she seemed very excited about it.

i checked the time and i told her i had to leave (it was around 2am) at this point we’re a few blocks from the bar where her friends were at, so i tell her that my car is nearby and i can drop her off. as soon as we get in my car we start making out and i put my hands in her pants and into her vagina…i think i felt a tampon? lol. but she kept saying how she hated that she was on her period. so we stop and i drop her off by the bar.

we kiss good bye…she gets out the car..but then jumps back in and kisses me again goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “sexyyy” and “hey sexy call me tomorrow” …i reply something with like “yea we should make plans for our hot date and i want to kiss every part of your body”

so on sunday…i text her asking what shes up to..around the early evening. no reply. i call her monday night, leave a message saying whats up. havent heard back from her.

some random facts: shes like 21 or 22, studying for physical therapy, works at a pizzeria, she seemed REALLY impressed that i’m in medical school, made some references to calling me dr. mcdreamy from the show greys anatomy, and kept making references to how i must be so loaded with money just cuz i drove a lexus.

i didnt tell her that it was my parents’ car. i had a slight, vague notion that she may be a “gold digger-ish” kinda girl. did i do something wrong? should i even call her or text her again?

My Answer:

First, good job on at least the hookup. Not every hookup leads to sex and even if you did something wrong, there is no way to know if that something was the cause of her not getting back in touch with you. Fact is that most hookups don’t go anywhere and that’s why going for sex as soon as possible is important, which is what you did correctly.

The main thing I would have done differently is saved the vagina fingering for inside the bedroom and teased her instead to build up the sexual tension. Other than that, she was reciprocating your attention so I can’t say for sure that you were being too needy. Girls are weird, I know, which is why there is an industry now on trying to get them into bed. Just go out there and do it again.

There is no point in calling or texting her again. If a girl pulls back like that, going into her more with multiple texts and calls will just make you feel worse.

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When You’re Trying To Date A Girl Who Is About To Travel

It can be death if a girl goes on a trip before you banged it. Something strange happens to a girl’s brain where things reset on the road. She comes back less enthused than ever to get it from a guy who was working on her. Let me give you a recent example.

I met a girl at a bar and made out with her within a half hour or so. I tried to seal it that same night but couldn’t due to bad logistics. I got the consolation prize of her number instead. The first time I called her I left a message and she returned my call almost instantly. Not only was I sure she liked me, but that she wanted to see me soon too.

We initially met on a Saturday and agreed to meet for drinks on a Tuesday. On Wednesday she was leaving to Miami for two weeks for business. I knew what I had to do…

After our date ended I suggested to walk her home (she lived nearby) since I wanted her to “get home safe.” She agreed and we walked to her front door. She asked if I wanted to come in, sparing me the important line that would have gotten me in (page 97 of Bang). We’re in her room and things progress from there, but I get healthy doses of resistance. She tells me this is only our fast date, she doesn’t move that fast, blah blah blah.

“No problem,” I tell her. But after a few minutes I’d start back up and get just a bit farther than I did before until she tells me to stop again. This was repeated about eight times over the course of two hours until we were both naked and I banged.

Do I normally break down resistance for two hours like that? Very rarely am I that persistent, which was very close to bordering on slimy. I did it this time because she was leaving the next day. It was my life or death duty to tap that because I knew that this would be my only chance.

Not ten minutes I was out of her house did she call me wanting to wish my goodbye. The next day before her flight she texted me and it was obvious she had a strong liking to me. I dare even say that she was crazy about me. Do you want to guess what happened when she came back? Nothing. I haven’t seen her since! She returned my phone calls with text messages days later and I eventually gave up.

To me this makes sense. Read the first paragraph again. While I do not know why travel resets things, it almost always does. If you find your girl is leaving for a trip more than a couple days in length, you should push harder than you normally do to seal the deal. You may not get a chance when she returns.

Getting a girl to the bedroom and dealing with resistance is the final stop before you notch your belt. It makes no difference how well you can attract a girl if you don’t know how to seal the deal. It would be a waste if you don’t know how to properly finish the job once you’ve already gotten her attention.

In Bang I have a chapter devoted specifically to “Late Game” that describes the best techniques and even explains the optimal order to take off her clothing while you have her in bed. Learn more about how Bang can improve your game.