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What To Do After The One-Night Stand

Here’s a question I got recently via email:

I’m doing good in initial approaches and getting up girls on one night stands. However seeing these girls again isn’t going too well. I have thought about the fact they might be getting buyers remorse because a few occasions have been drunken sex at a party. We have fun but I doubt the adequate comfort level of say 7 hours that Mystery talks about is reached.

Also little conversation is had, it’s mostly just both of our hormones in action. Some of these girls I have tried to turn into fuck buddies but it hasn’t gone according to plan. I normally send a text 2-3 days later saying whatsup girly or you were a playful girl sat night. They text back saying “hey! how are you blah blah.” I say, “good you etc etc wanna hang out tonight?” They say sorry I have work or some shit. Should I be calling even though they don’t have my number, might get freaked out that I’m calling. What are your thoughts here?

On that note what are some good initial text messages to send to a girl and then follow up texts?

Also what are your thoughts on drinking when you go out? I still feel a little uncomfortable in a club sober but feel that approaching this way will only tighten up my game.

How much does a players living quarters affect things? I currently live with a hot 20 year old girl who has a b/f. We have never hooked up although I kinda only see her as a friend. Sometimes it has felt weird bringing a girl back as I know she can hear us. Would be cool to live with some guys and bring back a few girls together. There might be a 20 year old guy moving in which would be cool. What are your thoughts on living arrangements in general?

Last last question, thinking about joining a fraternity next year. It will cost a little bit of money but I am working this summer. Friends in there say they are banging hotties l, r and centre. Then might move into the frat house. What do ya reckon on this (might be a stupid question)?

My Reply:

I don’t think it has anything to do with it being a one night stand because I’ve dated many girls in that way (banging in much less time than 7 hours). The big problem is your attempt to move them into fuck buddy status immediately. A girl will be a slut for a night but she won’t knowingly be the fuck buddy after just one sex episode.

“Wanna hang tonight?”

It doesn’t work like that. You have to try and date them normally by giving at least one days notice, preferably two. We know she’s a slut but don’t treat her like one while she’s sober. As for texting game, keep it very simple and logistical in nature. No jokes, no stories, no flirting. Just “Hey what’s up, are you free on so and so?”

I drink when I go out, usually capping it at 3 drinks (after that my game declines). If I’m in a social setting where 95% of people are drinking, it’d be more unnatural not to drink.

Living quarters definitely affects things but as I made it work when I lived with my dad (even bringing girls there), it doesn’t hurt as much as most people think. If I had my choice, I’d live with one other friend very close to a nightlife area. This would drastically increase the amount of one night stands I get. “Hey you want to have a drink at my place… I live four blocks away.” That has a lot more sway then if you live over a half-hour away.

If you can join a frat, do it. It’s probably the best thing you can do to banging a lot of chicks in college.


Posted on June 23 2010 in General Advice, Q&A, Sex

How To Increase Your Yearly Notch Count

Here’s all you gotta do: start a contest with a friend on who can get the most bangs for the year.

The idea for the contest started by accident in 2008, when a friend and I were talking about our conquests during the summer. We informally kept count after that and at the end of the year there was a clear winner. Quality was not accounted for.

Beach GirlsFor 2009 it became much more official. Every notch was put up on the leaderboard and without divulging too many details let me state that it definitely made the year more exciting. Someone was in the lead by three notches, another caught up, there was a back and forth for several months, many ties, text messages and email subject lines with “+1” flying around, and then finally two notches in the final half of December to cement the contestants’ fates, giving birth to the phrase “clutch notch.”

Previously I had thought of the contest only as a male bonding exercise, but when reflecting on the year I realized something: I banged four girls that I wouldn’t otherwise—simply to not lose the contest. These girls were merely alright but they kept me in the game, so to speak.

You’d think sex and the pursuit of notches would be enough to push a man like myself to bang all that I could, but truth is after a while in the game you need something more as motivation. A simple contest, with no real stake, is what did it.

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Posted on January 14 2010 in General Advice, Sex

Simple Move To Defeat Bedroom Resistance

Here’s a simple move I came up with in Colombia, a place where the girls put up a lot of boner-busting resistance before the bang.

If you’re in bed with a girl for a while and keep hitting a wall, say the following:

“How about we take a quick nap?”

What girl refuses a nap? After messing around for a while you both will be in half-sleep mode anyway.

Ask her to take a napThen after a couple minutes say, “I don’t sleep in my jeans though.”

Take off your jeans without waiting for her to respond. Then say, “You sleep in your jeans? They’re uncomfortable, no?”

Most girls will then reluctantly take off their jeans, maybe adding a “But we’re not doing anything” comment. Agree with her. If she is hesitant to take them off, say, “You can take off your jeans but I don’t want you to get too excited because I just want to sleep a little.”

The whole point of this is getting those jeans off because subsequent dry humping with only boxers and panties will turn her on more than jean-on-jean dry humping. The odds of sex happening when she gets down to her panties is extremely high (I estimate 80%). Try it.

While it’s essential you know how to talk to a girl and make her feel attracted to you, it’s even more important to know the little tricks and moves that get her clothes off as efficiently as possible. This is what I call being “sleazy.” It pays to be a sleazy because the girl is not going to do it for you unless she’s exceptionally drunk or slutty.

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Posted on July 21 2009 in How To Get Laid, Sex

What To Do When A Girl Flakes On You

Here’s a question I received recently. It’s a long read but worth it because you will likely face this type of scerario.

I need some advice regarding a girl i just met, and i have no clue what to do now. so this is what has happened so far. i was out with some friends this past friday night at some random club, and a group of girls were walking right by us. i tapped the girl who was right next to me and used my new opener, which has been working great. “hey…my friend thinks you’re italian…i think you’re irish…who’s right?” she smiled and said “im irish”.

so we began talking a little and i asked her if she wanted to dance. she agreed and we began grinding (we were standing by the dance floor anyway). while we were dancing, i held her tight and put my face next to hers…i could feel it happening. within moments we were making out, tongue and all.

i asked her if she wanted to sit down, and we went to some nearby bench and began making out heavily, and i was rubbing my hand down her entire leg..and thigh. she asked me if i wanted a shot of tequilla and we went ahead and got one. we came and sat down again and made out for a while, and this time i put my hand into her skirt and attempted to do some finger action. she said “you know im on my period…” so i laughed and slowed down.

i asked for her number and she gave it to me. so we continued kissing for a while and talking. i asked her what she found physically attractive in a guy. she said she went more for personality, and mentioned that she was really impressed that i was in medical school.

so we were hanging out for some time and then she wanted to go see her friends for a little so i went to look for my friends. they wanted to leave the club so i called the girl on her cell and she told me where she was, and then i found her and kissed her goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “” and i text her asking if her and her friends wanted to go out with me and my friends. she texts me back saying something like…”definitely ..we’re down! me!”

so saturday comes and i call her around 5ish pm and leave a msg and she texts me back saying shes at work. we continue texting back and forth and she says shell be out by 11pm and out at the bars at 1am. so eventually late at night i call her and she tells me which bar shes at. i bring my friend along and again we talk, get some drinks, and soon start making out by the bar.

later we go for a walk around the block and make out..again..and i put my hands in her pants and she starts moaning and grinding her hips. so we continued walking and talking and kissing and time flew quick. we talked about going on a date to dinner and movies, and she seemed very excited about it.

i checked the time and i told her i had to leave (it was around 2am) at this point we’re a few blocks from the bar where her friends were at, so i tell her that my car is nearby and i can drop her off. as soon as we get in my car we start making out and i put my hands in her pants and into her vagina…i think i felt a tampon? lol. but she kept saying how she hated that she was on her period. so we stop and i drop her off by the bar.

we kiss good bye…she gets out the car..but then jumps back in and kisses me again goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “sexyyy” and “hey sexy call me tomorrow” …i reply something with like “yea we should make plans for our hot date and i want to kiss every part of your body”

so on sunday…i text her asking what shes up to..around the early evening. no reply. i call her monday night, leave a message saying whats up. havent heard back from her.

some random facts: shes like 21 or 22, studying for physical therapy, works at a pizzeria, she seemed REALLY impressed that i’m in medical school, made some references to calling me dr. mcdreamy from the show greys anatomy, and kept making references to how i must be so loaded with money just cuz i drove a lexus.

i didnt tell her that it was my parents’ car. i had a slight, vague notion that she may be a “gold digger-ish” kinda girl. did i do something wrong? should i even call her or text her again?

My Answer:

First, good job on at least the hookup. Not every hookup leads to sex and even if you did something wrong, there is no way to know if that something was the cause of her not getting back in touch with you. Fact is that most hookups don’t go anywhere and that’s why going for sex as soon as possible is important, which is what you did correctly.

The main thing I would have done differently is saved the vagina fingering for inside the bedroom and teased her instead to build up the sexual tension. Other than that, she was reciprocating your attention so I can’t say for sure that you were being too needy. Girls are weird, I know, which is why there is an industry now on trying to get them into bed. Just go out there and do it again.

There is no point in calling or texting her again. If a girl pulls back like that, going into her more with multiple texts and calls will just make you feel worse.

The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. I remember the time when I personally couldn't even have conversations with pretty girls. I would just stare at them and do nothing, hoping that by some miracle of God they would come talk to me first. But they never did.

My problem was part lack of confidence, part fear, and part inexperience. Yet once I decided to take control of the problem, I sucked it up and started approaching girls everywhere like a maniac. That's how I learned by trial and error and came up with an effective system to go from approach to bang, which I describe in my book Bang.

In Bang I teach you everything I learned about girls with a strong focus on approaching and having interesting conversation that creates attraction. Then step-by0step I tell you how to call the girl, take her out on dates, and then finally seal the deal. With my system I'm confident you will eventually meet and bang the one girl that you want for the long-term. Click here to learn more about Bang today.

Posted on December 1 2008 in Attraction, Q&A, Sex