Trying To Pick Up Girls In A Spanish Hostel

Here’s a reader question:

Hey man, I remembered you had a section on your trip through Spain and I just read it. I´m in Valencia right now and leaving for Barcelona tomorrow. The hostel is definitely a unique experience. I´ve met more people the last week then I think I ever have in a single week. I´m getting a good feel for how things work and the first 3 nights things worked out awesome in Madrid. Next 2 nights in Sevilla were kinda tame but I think you must have caught some bad timing there because every girl I saw was amazing, all were very fit, tan and cute. Seville the hostel was small, kinda crappy and had no in-hostel bar so it was a hard launch point for extracurricular activities. I´ve just spent 2 nights in Valencia. I´ve talked to many hot girls here.

I have noticed a somewhere disturbing trend however. For example there were 3 beautiful girls coming down the steps when they passed i smiled and one smiled back. They were all dressed to go out and I saw them sitting around looking at each other in the bar/lounge area. I approached them and asked if they were gonna go out or just sit around all night to find out they speak very little english. I broke out my spanish (decent) and found they were all from Seville and very friendly.

They were going to go out with an amigo of one of the girls that lives here to dinner (at about 11pm) and were waiting for him. I walked outside with them to see if his taxi had arrived after a few and all of the sudden 2-3 other guys walked up and were immediately gaming their asses off. The trend I noticed is me initiating with girls then all the apparently apprehensive guys jump in with their best game. My game is not all that but I´m not afraid to try.

One of the bolder guys immediately said (let your friend go with her amigo, you 2 should come with me to go out and drink) he then wound up giving them his number and said to call him after dinner. I said a nice goodbye to them and wished them well on their trip.

Any better way I could have handled this? They told me where they were going later but from what I´ve learned on this trip so far is if you dont take girls immediately and leave it at maybe we´ll hangout later it doesnt happen. Thats what i´ve been doing with some girls more of (hey what are you up to tonight? them: not sure, you ? me: not sure, if you´re gonna be around the hostel ill find you later) kinda lame, but what else can i do when its still way too early? The trip is amazing so far but I think i´m getting really caught up on getting with girls and its frustrating when it doesnt always work out.

My Answer:

You need to get a lot more persistent that that! You gotta push all the way and fight through barriers until you get a “no” when you try to escalate the encounter. It seems like you are giving up way too early just cause things got a little hairy.

The other dudes are your competition in this game. So out-game them! From your example, that guy’s game was pretty weak because he gave his phone number. (Giving your phone number to a girl is a dumb move because it rarely converts.)

Since you are traveling, there is none of that phone/email stuff. You go for the kiss, and then you go for the bang… ON THE SAME NIGHT. THERE IS NO DAY TWO. So its all or nothing, meaning you can be much more persistent than you would at home, even at the risk of seeming *a little* pushy.

When traveling i found that the guys who got the girls were the ones who would make a confident showing, last the longest, and just scoop her up towards the end of the night. Persistence is crucial when you are going for these same night closes. Pick a girl, game her, and if she is feeling you, 100% YOU MUST GO FOR THE KISS… much sooner than you would here.

Don’t email me back unless its a success story or how you got brutally rejection.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. There is nothing natural or easy about walking up to a girl you don't know and talking to her in a way that makes her laugh, builds attraction, and ends with her giving you her phone number.

After approaching hundreds of different girls with all types of openers, I finally settled on two that are my "defaults," meaning they are powerful enough that I can use them regardless of the girl or the environment. I share them in my book Bang, along with others you can use for bars, clubs, daytime spots, and even the gym. It has 64 pages on Early Game that focus exclusively on the approach and what to say immediately after. I share dozens of conversation tips with tons of word-for-word examples, and I also teach you the concept of threads to keep the interaction going without having awkward silences.

You can take the time to make up openers on your own, experimenting over the next several months, or you can learn mine and get started using something that works off the bat. If you want to learn my favorite natural openers that are easy to use and actually work, click here to learn more about my book Bang today.

How To Pick Up Girls Who Speak A Different Language

Here’s a reader question about trying to pick up girls who speak a different language.

Roosh,

In Miami most of my potential victims have little or no english skills. My spanish is borderlines on caveman, but I understand plenty and are able to get me needs understood. What do you think?

My Answer:

Four options:

1. Learn Spanish. Go to Isohunt and download the Pimsleur Spanish courses
2. Bring along a prop. Maybe a dog? Tarot cards?
3. Set up a crude palm reading stand. I image that would be fun
4. Find a new place to meet girls!

I feel your pain though: you have this untapped supply of women and you can do nothing about it. I had this same problem in South America but i was doing this in bars and clubs. The music made the pauses less painful and there was alcohol and a dance floor to help things. I found that a digital camera to show them pictures showed my value while continuing the interaction.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. There is nothing natural or easy about walking up to a girl you don't know and talking to her in a way that makes her laugh, builds attraction, and ends with her giving you her phone number.

After approaching hundreds of different girls with all types of openers, I finally settled on two that are my "defaults," meaning they are powerful enough that I can use them regardless of the girl or the environment. I share them in my book Bang, along with others you can use for bars, clubs, daytime spots, and even the gym. It has 64 pages on Early Game that focus exclusively on the approach and what to say immediately after. I share dozens of conversation tips with tons of word-for-word examples, and I also teach you the concept of threads to keep the interaction going without having awkward silences.

You can take the time to make up openers on your own, experimenting over the next several months, or you can learn mine and get started using something that works off the bat. If you want to learn my favorite natural openers that are easy to use and actually work, click here to learn more about my book Bang today.

What To Do When A Girl Flakes On You

Here’s a question I received recently. It’s a long read but worth it because you will likely face this type of scerario.

I need some advice regarding a girl i just met, and i have no clue what to do now. so this is what has happened so far. i was out with some friends this past friday night at some random club, and a group of girls were walking right by us. i tapped the girl who was right next to me and used my new opener, which has been working great. “hey…my friend thinks you’re italian…i think you’re irish…who’s right?” she smiled and said “im irish”.

so we began talking a little and i asked her if she wanted to dance. she agreed and we began grinding (we were standing by the dance floor anyway). while we were dancing, i held her tight and put my face next to hers…i could feel it happening. within moments we were making out, tongue and all.

i asked her if she wanted to sit down, and we went to some nearby bench and began making out heavily, and i was rubbing my hand down her entire leg..and thigh. she asked me if i wanted a shot of tequilla and we went ahead and got one. we came and sat down again and made out for a while, and this time i put my hand into her skirt and attempted to do some finger action. she said “you know im on my period…” so i laughed and slowed down.

i asked for her number and she gave it to me. so we continued kissing for a while and talking. i asked her what she found physically attractive in a guy. she said she went more for personality, and mentioned that she was really impressed that i was in medical school.

so we were hanging out for some time and then she wanted to go see her friends for a little so i went to look for my friends. they wanted to leave the club so i called the girl on her cell and she told me where she was, and then i found her and kissed her goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “ur.sexy” and i text her asking if her and her friends wanted to go out with me and my friends. she texts me back saying something like…”definitely ..we’re down!..call me!”

so saturday comes and i call her around 5ish pm and leave a msg and she texts me back saying shes at work. we continue texting back and forth and she says shell be out by 11pm and out at the bars at 1am. so eventually late at night i call her and she tells me which bar shes at. i bring my friend along and again we talk, get some drinks, and soon start making out by the bar.

later we go for a walk around the block and make out..again..and i put my hands in her pants and she starts moaning and grinding her hips. so we continued walking and talking and kissing and time flew quick. we talked about going on a date to dinner and movies, and she seemed very excited about it.

i checked the time and i told her i had to leave (it was around 2am) at this point we’re a few blocks from the bar where her friends were at, so i tell her that my car is nearby and i can drop her off. as soon as we get in my car we start making out and i put my hands in her pants and into her vagina…i think i felt a tampon? lol. but she kept saying how she hated that she was on her period. so we stop and i drop her off by the bar.

we kiss good bye…she gets out the car..but then jumps back in and kisses me again goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “sexyyy” and “hey sexy call me tomorrow” …i reply something with like “yea we should make plans for our hot date and i want to kiss every part of your body”

so on sunday…i text her asking what shes up to..around the early evening. no reply. i call her monday night, leave a message saying whats up. havent heard back from her.

some random facts: shes like 21 or 22, studying for physical therapy, works at a pizzeria, she seemed REALLY impressed that i’m in medical school, made some references to calling me dr. mcdreamy from the show greys anatomy, and kept making references to how i must be so loaded with money just cuz i drove a lexus.

i didnt tell her that it was my parents’ car. i had a slight, vague notion that she may be a “gold digger-ish” kinda girl. did i do something wrong? should i even call her or text her again?

My Answer:

First, good job on at least the hookup. Not every hookup leads to sex and even if you did something wrong, there is no way to know if that something was the cause of her not getting back in touch with you. Fact is that most hookups don’t go anywhere and that’s why going for sex as soon as possible is important, which is what you did correctly.

The main thing I would have done differently is saved the vagina fingering for inside the bedroom and teased her instead to build up the sexual tension. Other than that, she was reciprocating your attention so I can’t say for sure that you were being too needy. Girls are weird, I know, which is why there is an industry now on trying to get them into bed. Just go out there and do it again.

There is no point in calling or texting her again. If a girl pulls back like that, going into her more with multiple texts and calls will just make you feel worse.

The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. I remember the time when I personally couldn't even have conversations with pretty girls. I would just stare at them and do nothing, hoping that by some miracle of God they would come talk to me first. But they never did.

My problem was part lack of confidence, part fear, and part inexperience. Yet once I decided to take control of the problem, I sucked it up and started approaching girls everywhere like a maniac. That's how I learned by trial and error and came up with an effective system to go from approach to bang, which I describe in my book Bang.

In Bang I teach you everything I learned about girls with a strong focus on approaching and having interesting conversation that creates attraction. Then step-by0step I tell you how to call the girl, take her out on dates, and then finally seal the deal. With my system I'm confident you will eventually meet and bang the one girl that you want for the long-term. Click here to learn more about Bang today.