Ten Fresh Sample Pages From My Game Book Bang

A few readers have told me that they are interested in buying Bang but they are not sure about the quality. To address this I have picked out ten new pages to show you that I think best represents the book. I introduce each page so you can skim around if you want to find the topics you’re most curious about.

Here’s the link to the new sample pages…

http://www.bangfieldguide.com/e/pages/

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7 Things You Can Do To Improve Your Game Right Now

1. Stop Leaning In

This is the number one problem I see guys do, especially in the first 30 minutes of talking to a girl. They don’t realize that by bending over they are saying, “God I’m so happy to be talking to you right now.” Or in a bar they talk right next to the girl’s ear when it isn’t even loud. The last thing you want a girl to know is that you are excited to be talking to her because it sends the signal you are inexperienced, don’t have success with girls, and ultimately, have low value. Lean back instead and let her be the one to come into you, and if you create the least bit of interest she will.

2. Stop Asking For Permission

Can we dance? Can I have your number? Can I kiss you? Because guys don’t know what it’s like when someone asks for permission to escalate intimacy, they don’t realize how lame it is for them to do so. Asking for permission introduces an awkward moment where the girl’s brain floods with reasons not to do what you are asking to. Plus you make it seem like you are scared of getting rejected, a quality not attractive to most women. Instead of asking, just do it and see what happens.

3. Memorize One Excellent, Breezy Story

When you first start talking to a girl, she has no idea who you are. If you talked to her because she is cute, chances are she gets talked to by a lot of guys. Separate yourself from the pack early on by telling her a story that hits on many of your positive qualities, such as your confidence, athleticism, sense of adventure, intelligence, humor, wit, story-telling ability, and so on. Because girls read between the lines, the story will not just be a story—it will be a representation of you that does not come across as bragging.

To pull this off, when you are in conversation and it is clear you have her attention, say, “That reminds me of when….” and then begin your story. I like going into stories about travel now, but before that was gym stories, where for instance I would tell girls the very true account of how one particularly gay guy stalked me in the gym and grabbed my hand while I was naked in the shower. If you are not confident of your story-telling abilities, understand that the best way to be good at telling stories is to expose yourself to good stories.

4. Stop Using The Word “Hot” To Describe Women

Have you noticed how easy it seems to attract girls who you are not that attracted to? Since you think of hot girls as so much more valuable than mediocre ones, you are more likely to behave in a way that makes it clear to her that she is indeed too valuable for you, without even realizing what you’re doing. This is the phenomenon where bad, needy game “leaks” out as a result of your thoughts, without conscious effort on your part. If you want to get physical with hot girls, you need to master your thinking of them first. From here on out, no girl is hot, and there are no tens. She’s either “cute” or “alright.” Don’t be that guy who falls captive to every girl he sees. Instead, trick your mind into lowering her value so that your game towards her is tighter.

5. Get Rejected Immediately!

Go up to a cute girl you don’t know in the next day and start a conversation with what you already know as a man. Make up an opener or just ask how she’s doing. Chances are she will end the conversation in a polite manner, typical of the “rejections” you will face. It may sting that this girl made it clear she doesn’t want to have nothing to do with you, but realize that the only way to perfect your game is to interact like this with a couple hundred girls. THERE IS NO OTHER WAY! This means you will have to branch out from your school, work, or social circle comfort zones. Accept that 99% of girls on this Earth do not ever want to have sex with you, get over it, and keep going until you find the ones that do.

6. Take Your Hands Out Of Your Pockets

Take your hands of your pockets. If you are at a bar looking like you are bored, resigning yourself to standing around and staring at the TV, don’t expect to get a positive response if you approach a girl. She notices what you do before you walk up to her, and if you seem like a buzzkill, she will be less likely to talk to you. While you don’t have to jump off the wall and be that annoying guy who talks loud and high-fives everyone, don’t stand around looking like someone just stood you up. Interact with your friends or the bartender. Not only will staying in an active, talkative state help you when you finally do approach, it makes it much more likely that you even will.

7. Stop Giving Direct Answers

Evade her questions with humor or counter-questions instead, withholding for as long as reasonably possible the answers to her questions. Not only does this show you aren’t trying to impress her, but it also makes her think you are hiding something. This shady vibe will keep the conversation going and make her curious about what is hiding behind the box. You immediately stand out because most men try to appease a girl by immediately answering questions in the hopes she will like him. By doing the opposite, she sticks around to figure out who the hell you are (or think you are), but by then it will be too late—your fish hook is in her and you can run deeper material with her full attention.

Some of these things I learned from my own experiences and others from guys who taught me everything they knew about game. During an intense six year period starting in 2001 I was going out four nights a week throwing everything I had at the girls I wanted to sleep with. I did things like ask them why they were so drunk and even approached with stick figure drawings on napkins to make them laugh.

My learning curve was long and hard and not until the second year did a reliable system start to become clear. For the next four years after that I perfected and refined it into something that made my life a lot easier when it came to getting laid. I finally wrote my system down in a book called Bang.

Bang is a 60,000 word textbook that teaches you the skills to consistently get laid. I include step-by-step instructions on how to build attraction and escalate intimacy with the girls you want to have sex with. My goal was to create a guide that was all you need to get laid. The books contain hundreds of tips to help you accomplish that goal.

I have uploaded several sample pages from my book on its webpage. I also included my Condom Line, the line I say when I need to get the condom in a smooth way without ruining the moment. Click here to learn more about Bang.

Top 5 Most Important Books For Guys

A good book should not only teach me something, but give me interesting topics to talk about, compensating for holes in my life experience. If you’re a 23-year-old virgin who has never approached a girl before, books may be all you have to go on until you catch up (and you definitely need to catch up).

I thought of the books that made a strong impact on me, and that I think would help men out with life and women. I came up with five important books. Here they are in alphabetical order:

MEAN GENES

Why do humans do irrational things? Why are men scared to get rejected? This book offers evolutionary reasons on ten topics: debt, fat, drugs, risk, greed, gender, beauty, infidelity, family, and friends and foes, providing research data to support its claims. Think of this book as a hackers manual to the human mind, teaching you about yourself in the process.

Click here to read reviews of Mean Genes.

THE 48 LAWS OF POWER

This book has laws on human behavior gleaned from historical examples, such as “Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument” and “Make Your Accomplishments Seem Effortless.” Not only do you learn about people but you pick up quite a bit of history as well, more than you probably remember from days in high school or college.

When I read this book at 22-years-old I was blown away, but recently I tried to reread it and felt like I was already familiar with its teachings, telling me that your level of experience will greatly dictate how much you get out of it. An alternate title for this book could be “Human Behavior For Dummies.”

Click here to read reviews of The 48 Laws Of Power.

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF INFLUENCE

Consider this book the bible of persuasion. It reviews dozens of studies to teach you what persuades and what doesn’t. It’s applicable to pickup because getting into a girl’s pants is indeed a form of persuasion, and Chapter 6 (Scarcity) will be the most helpful on that front. The other techniques discussed are reciprocity, liking, authority, social proof, and commitment/consistency.

Click here to read reviews of The Psychology Of Influence.

THINK AND GROW RICH

This is the only “self-help” book you’ll ever need to read in your life. It was written about 70 years ago by a man who interviewed over 500 rich men, distilling their wisdom into 13 steps. Even though it’s about money, it’s very easy to change the goal to whatever else you want to focus on, such as women. This book teaches you to use your mind to get what you want instead of gimmicks.

Click here to read reviews of Think And Grow Rich.

WALDEN

Even if you’ve read this book in high school, it’s worth another look. It’s about a man who set out to live a simple, deliberate life away from modern excess. It contains reflections on human nature, labor, and happiness, giving you more reasons than you’ll ever need to act now and live out your dreams instead of waiting for a tomorrow that may never come. It’s no coincidence that the “here and now” teachings in this book have some overlap with Buddhism.

Click here to read reviews of Walden.

If you have a book to recommend then let me know so I can check it out. Happy reading!

How To Be A Pick Up Artist

When I say “How To Be A Pick Up Artist” what I’m really referring to is how to get laid. So here are ten of my best tips to get you started on your quest.

1. Throw logic out the window. It’s tempting to want to use logic in attracting women, but if that was the case you would have guys everywhere with t-shirts stating their penis size and income, and get laid like rock stars. But we don’t really see that and it’s not true that the richer the guy is the more play he gets. Instead you have to understand that women are emotional beings who do things like spend hours shopping for shoes and watching soap operas and talk shows, responding to things that a guy would not respond to with many triggers that aren’t obvious and clear-cut. They do not think like you do.

2. Work out. You may think this is a cliche but there is no other sure-fire confidence booster than working on your body. It doesn’t have to be weight lifting either; it can be simply running or biking. Focus on something that improves your health and look so you feel better when it’s time to hit on girls.

3. Expose yourself to interesting things. It’s hard to maintain a several hour long conversation if you are not an interesting person, and the only way to get interesting is by doing interesting things. Take up a new hobby, travel to an exotic location for a couple weeks, or simply grab a handful of recommended books at the bookstore and start reading and thinking about them. The more positive experiences you have, the more things you’ll be able to talk to women which increases attraction.

4. Suck it up and learn how to approach. Unless you are a celebrity who gets approached all the time, you’re cutting yourself short by not approaching. Approaching women is the number one way to get a lot more women than you would have gotten if you simply waited for girls to approach you. Sure sometimes girls will approach me but that’s too much of a passive strategy based on luck.

5. Learn how to use routines. Most of the conversation you have with a girl will be natural and fresh, but think of how much farther you would get if you had a few stories that you know would get a positive reaction? What you want to do is think of a couple stories that happened in your life that a girl would find interesting, and find a way to squeeze that into a conversation during the first 30 minutes or so. This allows you to show the best of you within a short amount of time.

6. It’s all about the niche. There is nothing wrong with looking like everyone else and going where everyone else goes. You can still get laid that way, but it’s easier if you find your own look, and easier if you find a place that meshes will with that look and your vibe as well. You want to find a niche that optimizes the process so you don’t have to compete with a whole bunch of guys that on the surface seem very similar to you. Stop doing what everyone else is doing and stand out to get more natural attention. Let girls be curious about you before you even open your mouth.

7. Always be closing. The girl is not going to close herself. While some girls may offer her number before you ask for it, it’s still going to be up to you to have a plan on getting her phone number, asking her out on dates, and getting her inside a bedroom. Think of the whole process as climbing a ladder, but it must be you working your way up the ladder to get to the top. Never wait for a girl to allow herself to be laid by you. Sure you will get rejected along the way sometimes, but that’s the price you have to pay. Speaking of rejection…

8. Learn from rejection. You will get rejected dozens and dozens of times in the next year if you really make the decision to be a pick up artist. Over 90% of girls you initially talk to will not be attracted to you in any way, shape, or form, but it takes getting rejected by that 90% to get the 10% that you do hook up with or have sex with. Each time you get rejected just take a second to think about a way you could have made the interaction better, then go out there again on the next girl.

9. Focus on indirect game instead of direct. Once you get your game together you can start thinking about going up to girls and telling them you think they are cute, but until then you want to focus on indirect game where you pose some sort of innocuous question or situation to get a conversation going. For instance if you are at a coffee shop and a girl you like is next to you reading your book, you can ask her if the book is any good. By going indirect you don’t force the girl to make quick decision on if she likes you or not since you’re just being chatty.

10. Don’t take things seriously. Approaching girls and getting laid is nothing but a game is just like any other hobby. Sometimes it stops being a game when you meet the right girl but the lighter you approach being a pick up artist the better your results will be. Every time you get rejected you should have a smirk on your face because in the end it really does not matter. Just go after what you want, learn from your rejections, and go out there again. With hard enough work, things fall into place.

The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. I remember the time when I personally couldn't even have conversations with pretty girls. I would just stare at them and do nothing, hoping that by some miracle of God they would come talk to me first. But they never did.

My problem was part lack of confidence, part fear, and part inexperience. Yet once I decided to take control of the problem, I sucked it up and started approaching girls everywhere like a maniac. That's how I learned by trial and error and came up with an effective system to go from approach to bang, which I describe in my book Bang.

In Bang I teach you everything I learned about girls with a strong focus on approaching and having interesting conversation that creates attraction. Then step-by0step I tell you how to call the girl, take her out on dates, and then finally seal the deal. With my system I'm confident you will eventually meet and bang the one girl that you want for the long-term. Click here to learn more about Bang today.