Top 5 Most Important Books For Guys

A good book should not only teach me something, but give me interesting topics to talk about, compensating for holes in my life experience. If you’re a 23-year-old virgin who has never approached a girl before, books may be all you have to go on until you catch up (and you definitely need to catch up).

I thought of the books that made a strong impact on me, and that I think would help men out with life and women. I came up with five important books. Here they are in alphabetical order:

MEAN GENES

Why do humans do irrational things? Why are men scared to get rejected? This book offers evolutionary reasons on ten topics: debt, fat, drugs, risk, greed, gender, beauty, infidelity, family, and friends and foes, providing research data to support its claims. Think of this book as a hackers manual to the human mind, teaching you about yourself in the process.

Click here to read reviews of Mean Genes.

THE 48 LAWS OF POWER

This book has laws on human behavior gleaned from historical examples, such as “Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument” and “Make Your Accomplishments Seem Effortless.” Not only do you learn about people but you pick up quite a bit of history as well, more than you probably remember from days in high school or college.

When I read this book at 22-years-old I was blown away, but recently I tried to reread it and felt like I was already familiar with its teachings, telling me that your level of experience will greatly dictate how much you get out of it. An alternate title for this book could be “Human Behavior For Dummies.”

Click here to read reviews of The 48 Laws Of Power.

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF INFLUENCE

Consider this book the bible of persuasion. It reviews dozens of studies to teach you what persuades and what doesn’t. It’s applicable to pickup because getting into a girl’s pants is indeed a form of persuasion, and Chapter 6 (Scarcity) will be the most helpful on that front. The other techniques discussed are reciprocity, liking, authority, social proof, and commitment/consistency.

Click here to read reviews of The Psychology Of Influence.

THINK AND GROW RICH

This is the only “self-help” book you’ll ever need to read in your life. It was written about 70 years ago by a man who interviewed over 500 rich men, distilling their wisdom into 13 steps. Even though it’s about money, it’s very easy to change the goal to whatever else you want to focus on, such as women. This book teaches you to use your mind to get what you want instead of gimmicks.

Click here to read reviews of Think And Grow Rich.

WALDEN

Even if you’ve read this book in high school, it’s worth another look. It’s about a man who set out to live a simple, deliberate life away from modern excess. It contains reflections on human nature, labor, and happiness, giving you more reasons than you’ll ever need to act now and live out your dreams instead of waiting for a tomorrow that may never come. It’s no coincidence that the “here and now” teachings in this book have some overlap with Buddhism.

Click here to read reviews of Walden.

If you have a book to recommend then let me know so I can check it out. Happy reading!

How To Be A Pick Up Artist

When I say “How To Be A Pick Up Artist” what I’m really referring to is how to get laid. So here are ten of my best tips to get you started on your quest.

1. Throw logic out the window. It’s tempting to want to use logic in attracting women, but if that was the case you would have guys everywhere with t-shirts stating their penis size and income, and get laid like rock stars. But we don’t really see that and it’s not true that the richer the guy is the more play he gets. Instead you have to understand that women are emotional beings who do things like spend hours shopping for shoes and watching soap operas and talk shows, responding to things that a guy would not respond to with many triggers that aren’t obvious and clear-cut. They do not think like you do.

2. Work out. You may think this is a cliche but there is no other sure-fire confidence booster than working on your body. It doesn’t have to be weight lifting either; it can be simply running or biking. Focus on something that improves your health and look so you feel better when it’s time to hit on girls.

3. Expose yourself to interesting things. It’s hard to maintain a several hour long conversation if you are not an interesting person, and the only way to get interesting is by doing interesting things. Take up a new hobby, travel to an exotic location for a couple weeks, or simply grab a handful of recommended books at the bookstore and start reading and thinking about them. The more positive experiences you have, the more things you’ll be able to talk to women which increases attraction.

4. Suck it up and learn how to approach. Unless you are a celebrity who gets approached all the time, you’re cutting yourself short by not approaching. Approaching women is the number one way to get a lot more women than you would have gotten if you simply waited for girls to approach you. Sure sometimes girls will approach me but that’s too much of a passive strategy based on luck.

5. Learn how to use routines. Most of the conversation you have with a girl will be natural and fresh, but think of how much farther you would get if you had a few stories that you know would get a positive reaction? What you want to do is think of a couple stories that happened in your life that a girl would find interesting, and find a way to squeeze that into a conversation during the first 30 minutes or so. This allows you to show the best of you within a short amount of time.

6. It’s all about the niche. There is nothing wrong with looking like everyone else and going where everyone else goes. You can still get laid that way, but it’s easier if you find your own look, and easier if you find a place that meshes will with that look and your vibe as well. You want to find a niche that optimizes the process so you don’t have to compete with a whole bunch of guys that on the surface seem very similar to you. Stop doing what everyone else is doing and stand out to get more natural attention. Let girls be curious about you before you even open your mouth.

7. Always be closing. The girl is not going to close herself. While some girls may offer her number before you ask for it, it’s still going to be up to you to have a plan on getting her phone number, asking her out on dates, and getting her inside a bedroom. Think of the whole process as climbing a ladder, but it must be you working your way up the ladder to get to the top. Never wait for a girl to allow herself to be laid by you. Sure you will get rejected along the way sometimes, but that’s the price you have to pay. Speaking of rejection…

8. Learn from rejection. You will get rejected dozens and dozens of times in the next year if you really make the decision to be a pick up artist. Over 90% of girls you initially talk to will not be attracted to you in any way, shape, or form, but it takes getting rejected by that 90% to get the 10% that you do hook up with or have sex with. Each time you get rejected just take a second to think about a way you could have made the interaction better, then go out there again on the next girl.

9. Focus on indirect game instead of direct. Once you get your game together you can start thinking about going up to girls and telling them you think they are cute, but until then you want to focus on indirect game where you pose some sort of innocuous question or situation to get a conversation going. For instance if you are at a coffee shop and a girl you like is next to you reading your book, you can ask her if the book is any good. By going indirect you don’t force the girl to make quick decision on if she likes you or not since you’re just being chatty.

10. Don’t take things seriously. Approaching girls and getting laid is nothing but a game is just like any other hobby. Sometimes it stops being a game when you meet the right girl but the lighter you approach being a pick up artist the better your results will be. Every time you get rejected you should have a smirk on your face because in the end it really does not matter. Just go after what you want, learn from your rejections, and go out there again. With hard enough work, things fall into place.

The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. I remember the time when I personally couldn't even have conversations with pretty girls. I would just stare at them and do nothing, hoping that by some miracle of God they would come talk to me first. But they never did.

My problem was part lack of confidence, part fear, and part inexperience. Yet once I decided to take control of the problem, I sucked it up and started approaching girls everywhere like a maniac. That's how I learned by trial and error and came up with an effective system to go from approach to bang, which I describe in my book Bang.

In Bang I teach you everything I learned about girls with a strong focus on approaching and having interesting conversation that creates attraction. Then step by step I tell you how to call the girl, take her out on dates, and then finally seal the deal. With my system I'm confident you will eventually meet and bang the one girl that you want for the long-term. Click here to learn more about Bang today.

How To Pick Up Girls On Yelp

Yelp is a social review site that is growing in popularity. Here’s how to pick up girls there.

1. Write funny reviews. If you’re not funny then forget it, stick to buying table service in the club. Just don’t appear to be trying too hard.

2. Add a profile pic. Put up an good pic of you with as many beautiful girls as possible. Don’t worry if it’s obvious. There must be many many girls in the picture. If you don’t have one then just take one with some drunk girls in the bar this weekend.

3. Add friends. On Yelp you don’t need to know someone to add as a friend. Once you’ve built up a dozen or so quality reviews, start adding all the girls you find attractive. Add a couple guys too so you’re scheme isn’t too obvious.

4. Use her reviews as a conversation starter. Now this is where the magic happens. You’re going to use a review she wrote as a way to start a conversation. For example if a cute girl mentions “greasy Middle Eastern guys” in a club review, I can start a conversation about that since I’m a greasy Middle Eastern guy. There’s a lot of possibilities here so be creative, but more importantly, be funny. Make your message short and ask one question, two at most.

5. Converse. Have a fun back and forth conversation. Keep it light, breezy, and funny. After a few exchanges, if she’s still participating and asking you questions, ask her if she would like to get ice cream or coffee some time. Asking her out is your statement of intent, so you don’t need to do things like say “I think you’re cute” or “I like you” in your messages. Be cool. If you don’t get a date this way then you probably will if you…

6. Go to Yelp events. They throw happy hours with free food and booze every couple of months. If your reviews are awesome then people will come up to you and give you compliments (everyone wears name tags). Other girls notice that other girls are noticing you and it will be impossible not to walk away without a couple numbers. (Click on the Events tab in Yelp to find future events.)

Again, this only works if you have a good sense of humor and if you’re already interesting and successful with girls in person. Otherwise you must be incredibly good looking where girls just want to have sex with you. The only downside is the quality of girls on Yelp varies, many seem to be in a relationship, and the vibe is more professional than laid back. Remember: approaching in bars is only one way of doing it.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. There is nothing natural or easy about walking up to a girl you don't know and talking to her in a way that makes her laugh, builds attraction, and ends with her giving you her phone number.

After approaching hundreds of different girls with all types of openers, I finally settled on two that are my "defaults," meaning they are powerful enough that I can use them regardless of the girl or the environment. I share them in my book Bang, along with others you can use for bars, clubs, daytime spots, and even the gym. It has 64 pages on Early Game that focus exclusively on the approach and what to say immediately after. I share dozens of conversation tips with tons of word-for-word examples, and I also teach you the concept of threads to keep the interaction going without having awkward silences.

You can take the time to make up openers on your own, experimenting over the next several months, or you can learn mine and get started using something that works off the bat. If you want to learn my favorite natural openers that are easy to use and actually work, click here to learn more about my book Bang today.

How To Pick Up Girls On Facebook

Facebook is harder to pick up girls than on Myspace because of the privacy filter. Girls on Facebook can set their profile so that you can’t even message them unless you are a friend or friend of a friend. The only option that leaves you is the poke.

You can poke anyone on Facebook regardless if you are their friend or not. It’s the only way to communicate with a girl you like, so it’s the method we are going to use to pick up girls on Facebook. But first there is one major thing you need to get in order…

Your profile pictures have to be awesome. And I mean AWESOME. The key is quality so get four or five of your best looking photos in fun settings. Have one at the party, one on the beach, one traveling, one serious and alone, and so on. Each one should show a strong part of your personality, because the girl is only going to skim the words in your profile. Your pictures are your profile.

You must also have at least one photo with an attractive girl, preferably many attractive girls. This is called “social proof” and it tells the girl that you are not a loser who has never spoken to a girl before. If you don’t have above-average looks, just take a little more care in which photos you upload.

Most of the work to picking up on Facebook is before you poke her. She will receive the poke, look at your pictures, and then if she likes them she will poke back. After that simply add her as a friend and get ready to message her.

Your first message should be composed of two things:

1. Make a quick joke. Something like “Hey… nice poking skill.” It doesn’t have to be involved.

2. Ask a question based on a piece of information from her profile. If she likes a band you also like, say “What do you know about Band?”

Hopefully that leads to a back and forth conversation where you can eventually ask her out for a drink. Remember the game here is numbers, so poke tons of girls and see which ones poke you back.

Flirting and building attraction is crucial when it comes to helping the girl decide that she wants to sleep with you. Before I knew how attraction really worked, I'd approach a girl and talk about boring topics such as work or her favorite movies, and then she would politely excuse herself from the conversation only a couple minutes into it. But now I know better. When you talk about more interesting topics, she sees you as more interesting. Obvious, right? With a couple additional techniques, the "interesting" is turned into strong attraction.

Once attraction is built you can get her number and take her on a date or go for the one night stand (my preferred method). I teach you how to do all this in my book Bang, which details my complete banging system with step-by-step strategies such as The Four Key Moves To Intimacy (for when you want to kiss her) and my bedroom technique for sealing the deal. And of course my book tells you how to keep a fun conversation going, whether you just met her or are on a date.

If you had a system for building strong attraction with random girls you meet, would you get laid more than you are now? If you answered yes, then click here to learn more about Bang today.