How To Be A Pick Up Artist

When I say “How To Be A Pick Up Artist” what I’m really referring to is how to get laid. So here are ten of my best tips to get you started on your quest.

1. Throw logic out the window. It’s tempting to want to use logic in attracting women, but if that was the case you would have guys everywhere with t-shirts stating their penis size and income, and get laid like rock stars. But we don’t really see that and it’s not true that the richer the guy is the more play he gets. Instead you have to understand that women are emotional beings who do things like spend hours shopping for shoes and watching soap operas and talk shows, responding to things that a guy would not respond to with many triggers that aren’t obvious and clear-cut. They do not think like you do.

2. Work out. You may think this is a cliche but there is no other sure-fire confidence booster than working on your body. It doesn’t have to be weight lifting either; it can be simply running or biking. Focus on something that improves your health and look so you feel better when it’s time to hit on girls.

3. Expose yourself to interesting things. It’s hard to maintain a several hour long conversation if you are not an interesting person, and the only way to get interesting is by doing interesting things. Take up a new hobby, travel to an exotic location for a couple weeks, or simply grab a handful of recommended books at the bookstore and start reading and thinking about them. The more positive experiences you have, the more things you’ll be able to talk to women which increases attraction.

4. Suck it up and learn how to approach. Unless you are a celebrity who gets approached all the time, you’re cutting yourself short by not approaching. Approaching women is the number one way to get a lot more women than you would have gotten if you simply waited for girls to approach you. Sure sometimes girls will approach me but that’s too much of a passive strategy based on luck.

5. Learn how to use routines. Most of the conversation you have with a girl will be natural and fresh, but think of how much farther you would get if you had a few stories that you know would get a positive reaction? What you want to do is think of a couple stories that happened in your life that a girl would find interesting, and find a way to squeeze that into a conversation during the first 30 minutes or so. This allows you to show the best of you within a short amount of time.

6. It’s all about the niche. There is nothing wrong with looking like everyone else and going where everyone else goes. You can still get laid that way, but it’s easier if you find your own look, and easier if you find a place that meshes will with that look and your vibe as well. You want to find a niche that optimizes the process so you don’t have to compete with a whole bunch of guys that on the surface seem very similar to you. Stop doing what everyone else is doing and stand out to get more natural attention. Let girls be curious about you before you even open your mouth.

7. Always be closing. The girl is not going to close herself. While some girls may offer her number before you ask for it, it’s still going to be up to you to have a plan on getting her phone number, asking her out on dates, and getting her inside a bedroom. Think of the whole process as climbing a ladder, but it must be you working your way up the ladder to get to the top. Never wait for a girl to allow herself to be laid by you. Sure you will get rejected along the way sometimes, but that’s the price you have to pay. Speaking of rejection…

8. Learn from rejection. You will get rejected dozens and dozens of times in the next year if you really make the decision to be a pick up artist. Over 90% of girls you initially talk to will not be attracted to you in any way, shape, or form, but it takes getting rejected by that 90% to get the 10% that you do hook up with or have sex with. Each time you get rejected just take a second to think about a way you could have made the interaction better, then go out there again on the next girl.

9. Focus on indirect game instead of direct. Once you get your game together you can start thinking about going up to girls and telling them you think they are cute, but until then you want to focus on indirect game where you pose some sort of innocuous question or situation to get a conversation going. For instance if you are at a coffee shop and a girl you like is next to you reading your book, you can ask her if the book is any good. By going indirect you don’t force the girl to make quick decision on if she likes you or not since you’re just being chatty.

10. Don’t take things seriously. Approaching girls and getting laid is nothing but a game is just like any other hobby. Sometimes it stops being a game when you meet the right girl but the lighter you approach being a pick up artist the better your results will be. Every time you get rejected you should have a smirk on your face because in the end it really does not matter. Just go after what you want, learn from your rejections, and go out there again. With hard enough work, things fall into place.

The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. The reason you are reading this right now is because you believe the path lies in game. If you're looking to possess the whole package, from the right inner game all the way to successful dates that end in sex, check out my book Bang. It's a one-stop shop for the most important things you need to know. Click here to learn more...

How To Pick Up Girls On Yelp

Yelp is a social review site that is growing in popularity. Here’s how to pick up girls there.

1. Write funny reviews. If you’re not funny then forget it, stick to buying table service in the club. Just don’t appear to be trying too hard.

2. Add a profile pic. Put up an good pic of you with as many beautiful girls as possible. Don’t worry if it’s obvious. There must be many many girls in the picture. If you don’t have one then just take one with some drunk girls in the bar this weekend.

3. Add friends. On Yelp you don’t need to know someone to add as a friend. Once you’ve built up a dozen or so quality reviews, start adding all the girls you find attractive. Add a couple guys too so you’re scheme isn’t too obvious.

4. Use her reviews as a conversation starter. Now this is where the magic happens. You’re going to use a review she wrote as a way to start a conversation. For example if a cute girl mentions “greasy Middle Eastern guys” in a club review, I can start a conversation about that since I’m a greasy Middle Eastern guy. There’s a lot of possibilities here so be creative, but more importantly, be funny. Make your message short and ask one question, two at most.

5. Converse. Have a fun back and forth conversation. Keep it light, breezy, and funny. After a few exchanges, if she’s still participating and asking you questions, ask her if she would like to get ice cream or coffee some time. Asking her out is your statement of intent, so you don’t need to do things like say “I think you’re cute” or “I like you” in your messages. Be cool. If you don’t get a date this way then you probably will if you…

6. Go to Yelp events. They throw happy hours with free food and booze every couple of months. If your reviews are awesome then people will come up to you and give you compliments (everyone wears name tags). Other girls notice that other girls are noticing you and it will be impossible not to walk away without a couple numbers. (Click on the Events tab in Yelp to find future events.)

Again, this only works if you have a good sense of humor and if you’re already interesting and successful with girls in person. Otherwise you must be incredibly good looking where girls just want to have sex with you. The only downside is the quality of girls on Yelp varies, many seem to be in a relationship, and the vibe is more professional than laid back. Remember: approaching in bars is only one way of doing it.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. Unless you know what you are doing it will take hundreds of tries to get master it through trial and error (I should know because that's how I learned). If you're working on your approaching skills then check out my book Bang, which tells you how to do it from start to end. Click here to learn more...

How To Pick Up Girls On Facebook

Facebook is harder to pick up girls than on Myspace because of the privacy filter. Girls on Facebook can set their profile so that you can’t even message them unless you are a friend or friend of a friend. The only option that leaves you is the poke.

You can poke anyone on Facebook regardless if you are their friend or not. It’s the only way to communicate with a girl you like, so it’s the method we are going to use to pick up girls on Facebook. But first there is one major thing you need to get in order…

Your profile pictures have to be awesome. And I mean AWESOME. The key is quality so get four or five of your best looking photos in fun settings. Have one at the party, one on the beach, one traveling, one serious and alone, and so on. Each one should show a strong part of your personality, because the girl is only going to skim the words in your profile. Your pictures are your profile.

You must also have at least one photo with an attractive girl, preferably many attractive girls. This is called “social proof” and it tells the girl that you are not a loser who has never spoken to a girl before. If you don’t have above-average looks, just take a little more care in which photos you upload.

Most of the work to picking up on Facebook is before you poke her. She will receive the poke, look at your pictures, and then if she likes them she will poke back. After that simply add her as a friend and get ready to message her.

Your first message should be composed of two things:

1. Make a quick joke. Something like “Hey… nice poking skill.” It doesn’t have to be involved.

2. Ask a question based on a piece of information from her profile. If she likes a band you also like, say “What do you know about Band?”

Hopefully that leads to a back and forth conversation where you can eventually ask her out for a drink. Remember the game here is numbers, so poke tons of girls and see which ones poke you back.

Flirting and building attraction is where the magic happens... where she decides that she wants to sleep with you. Unless you have a plan or method for this step, you're working on blind luck. If she doesn't happen to be into your looks, do you know what to do to still get her number, a date, and more? If not then check out my book Bang, which details exactly how to build attraction. Click here to learn more...

How To Get A Girls Attention

There are two ways to get a girls attention, both of which are at odds with each other. The first is to emulate the guys you see in the catalog pages of Abercrombie & Fitch, J. Crew, Hollister, and Aeropostale. If those companies are experts at knowing the look that today’s young people want, then you should go for exactly that. But then there’s a problem..

Every other guy is trying to dress like that too. With so many clones out there it becomes a challenge to stand out and get more attention than them if a girl can’t tell you apart from the guy you’re standing next to.

A better strategy is to stand out. You want to look in a way that only a few other guys look. While there will be a much smaller percentage of girls who are into an alternative look, you will get the very strong attention of girls who do, meaning you have to a lot less work when it comes to approaching, attracting, or seeking them out. In many cases that make it extremely obvious that they want to talk to you with extended eye contact or smiling. All you have to do is say hi.

If you want to look different than all the other guys, you will have to buy things or accessories that is not readily available at your local mall. Usually traveling is a good source for these types of objects. But be careful: you don’t want to look like you are trying too hard. Don’t dress like a freak just to get attention if it doesn’t fit your personality. Just accentuate the flair that you want to achieve without adopting this whole other look that isn’t you.

Instead of worrying about how to get attention, a better strategy is to be proactive and approach women instead. It shouldn’t matter if a girl notices you or not as long as you go after the girl you want. Many times I approach girls who didn’t even know I existed the second before I opened my mouth.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. Unless you know what you are doing it will take hundreds of tries to get master it through trial and error (I should know because that's how I learned). If you're working on your approaching skills then check out my book Bang, which tells you how to do it from start to end. Click here to learn more...