How To Flirt By Text Messaging

Text messaging is the new thing when it comes to contacting girls. It’s slowly replacing phone conversations as a means to not only communicate with the girl but get dates as well. There’s going to be a day in the future where our kids wondered about how phone conversations worked, like we ask our parents with mom shows us love letters written by dad.

When it comes to flirting in text messaging, the key rule is the shorter and the breezier the better. You don’t want to numb the girl to you by texting often with many questions. By cryptic, use fragment sentences, and keep her guessing what you really mean. Send random text messages with two or third words followed by question marks. For example, “Going out tonight?” and “Anything exciting?” is good.

Always take longer to reply than it took her. For example if she took ten minutes to write back to your text message, take longer than 10 minutes. This is important so you don’t come across as needy or bored. Remember that you have to play the game in text just as much as you would in person or on the phone. Seductions are made and broken by text, believe it or not.

The ultimate goal of text is to get her out on a date, so you should only send a flurry of texts on the day or the day before you want to get her out. There is no point in starting a long text messaging dialogue on Sunday if you want to get her out on Wednesday night. Instead just wait until Wednesday night where you can message her something like “What are you doing tonight?” The dialogue will sporadically continue int the evening until you suggest a meeting. Write, “a drink.. 9pm?”

If you’re looking for the ultimate strategy in text messaging, it’s this: KISS… Keep It Simple Stupid.

It would be a waste to spend all that time approaching and talking to get her number and then blow it on the phone when you try to set a date. What's even more important than getting a number is knowing what to do with it.

I remember when I went on a number collecting spree for six months just to practice my phone game. I was tired of it costing me notches, and didn't get very far with using e-mail. I tested everything I could, even seemingly basic things like the best times to call, until I settled on the most optimal system that resulted in the greatest number of first dates.

In my book Bang I share with you my phone game in several very detailed pages, from how to get her on the phone, when to call her, what voicemail message to leave, what to say when you call her, and how to ask her out. And my phone conversation strategy helps you avoid any awkward silence when you get her on the phone.

It may take a few tries for you to successfully adopt my phone system, but I think it will be a big improvement if you don't already have one in place right now. Click here to learn more about my book Bang today, where it's all spelled out for you in very clear, no-bullshit language.

How To Flirt With Girls

The idea of flirting has come a long way from the days of James Bond movies. It’s a lot subtle now and you’ll find flirting fits into two main styles:

1. Showing interest. This is where you make it almost obvious that you are sexually interested. And by almost obvious I mean you are giving her attention and asking her questions. This is the “default” way of flirting that you do without even thinking about it, yet it’s not very effective. Or at least not as effective as it used to be.

2. Teasing and being cocky. The new and arguably better way to flirt is to bust her balls, or as the famous pick up artist Mystery puts it, “treat her like your bratty little sister.” The advantage of this is that it builds attraction, but the disadvantage is that it does take time to master and you run the risk of crossing the line and offending the girl. (You will offend a girl at some point.)

It looks like the days of winking at girls and calling them sweetie is over. Unless you are dealing with an elderly woman, this will not get the response you want. So let’s look more into being more teaseful and cocky.

Being cocky implies that you have confidence (or else why would you be cocky?). This gets most girls attention. The overall attitude you want to have is this:

“This girl is annoying. Too many guys have treated her like a princess. Time to show her that I’m not impressed by her.”

You’ll start saying things that DON’T seek her approval, and this in turn is how attraction is built. In effect you flirt by not flirting. She will wonder why you are not putting her on a pedestal like every other guy out there.

When you adopt that attitude you start telling her things like “What’s in it for me?” and “Do you normally act like this?” If you’ve never said things like that to a girl then it may take you some time time until you get comfortable doing it. But if you’re already in the game then you are probably nodding your head at the effectiveness of this type of attitude.

Understand: flirting like how our parents did will not get you far. Times have changed and girls will not be attracted to guys showing obvious interest unless they already like how you look, but if you were a great looking guy chances are you wouldn’t be reading this right now.

Your flirting will be anti-flirting, where with a smirk you say things that a guy who is not interested in would say. Remember that human nature drives people towards that which drives away from them. You will need to experiment with a lot of different lines and see what type of response they get.

Flirting and building attraction is crucial when it comes to helping the girl decide that she wants to sleep with you. Before I knew how attraction really worked, I'd approach a girl and talk about boring topics such as work or her favorite movies, and then she would politely excuse herself from the conversation only a couple minutes into it. But now I know better. When you talk about more interesting topics, she sees you as more interesting. Obvious, right? With a couple additional techniques, the "interesting" is turned into strong attraction.

Once attraction is built you can get her number and take her on a date or go for the one night stand (my preferred method). I teach you how to do all this in my book Bang, which details my complete banging system with step-by-step strategies such as The Four Key Moves To Intimacy (for when you want to kiss her) and my bedroom technique for sealing the deal. And of course my book tells you how to keep a fun conversation going, whether you just met her or are on a date.

If you had a system for building strong attraction with random girls you meet, would you get laid more than you are now? If you answered yes, then click here to learn more about Bang today.