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Even if you’re a beginner, your texting skills will sooner or later net you actual dates with girls. But getting a girl to go out with you doesn’t mean your hard work is over; you’ve merely moved into the next level of the video game, which carries with it its own set of enemies and bosses. Unlike your previous interactions with the girl, the date is a complex, extended exchange with many variables to consider. There’s a fine line between a poorly executed date, where the girl never contacts you again, and a successful one, where you have sex with the girl or situate things so it can happen on a subsequent date.
A lot of what determines this is simple logistics: the what/where/when of your planning and execution. The underlying principle of good logistics is, in the simplest terms, always planning with sex in mind. Even if your dates don’t lead to sex—and they often won’t—planning for the best-case scenario will make you more successful, more often.
Good date-logistics start with the basics: choosing a suitable venue and time. There’s no perfect place, so don’t obsess over this. Don’t plan anything complicated, distracting, or otherwise gratuitous, like skydiving or horseback riding. Since you’re supposed to be “getting to know each other,” you’re not going to raise any eyebrows by selecting a simple bar or night lounge. Night is always better than day. And it’s always best to go to a place that serves alcohol, since coffee-shop or restaurant dates rarely lead to any kind of intimacy. Your goal is to establish a mood.
Coffee shops simply don’t provide the atmosphere for physical escalation. When was the last time you saw a guy make out with a girl at Starbucks? Restaurants are even worse. A girl with a full stomach is a girl with an empty vagina. The digestion process pulls blood away from the reproductive organs for both of you—especially if it’s a heavy meal with tons of cheese and meat. So even if she wanted to have sex before the meal, she’s not going to want to while she’s busy digesting and secretly farting every five minutes. Food also absorbs alcohol. So even if you drink eating, she’s not going to get into that relaxed, fun mood that is conducive to sex.
Schedule your dates after standard dinner time. If you end up in a place where they serve food, and the girl announces she’s hungry, say “you get food, I already ate.” She’ll likely get something small, so she doesn’t appear like a total porker in front of you—or will ask you to split something with her, where you can further control the selection. (The exception, of course, is if she’s fat, where she’s already demonstrated little shame in her eating behavior, as telegraphed by her sloppy physique that loudly advertises her love for food to the entire world.) Best case: avoid places that serve anything beyond light “tapas.”
Some bars are definitely better than others. It’s best if you already have venues in mind that are cool, comfortable, not too crowded or loud, and most importantly, conveniently located. That “perfect bar” that requires taking three buses or driving 45 minutes on the interstate to get there is going to do you no good. Ideally, you want to choose a venue from which you can easily and comfortably move to your place (or hers). It doesn’t need to be next door (this, in fact, might seem a little too transparent), but it should be accessible. Oftentimes, the only thing that keeps a girl from coming home with you is that it’s somehow difficult, time-consuming, or awkward. You need to anticipate and remove as many of those objections ahead of time as you can.
Smart venue selection can make all the difference between a memorable night with your date and another night of jerking off to Internet porn. Plan ahead and reap your rewards.
One night I had a date with a Polish girl and beforehand something told me it wasn’t going to go very well and that I should bring some entertainment. So I brought a book (Fathers & Sons by Ivan Turgenev).
Sure enough, one hour after we met up, she told me it was time to end the date because “We need to start slow, like in La Petit Prince.” Whatever. I had my book with me so I ordered another drink and cracked it open.
First, it serves as a great conversation starter that begins the date on an interesting note. You can take it a step further by using it to mold your image depending on the book you take. If the girl sees you as a pensive intellectual, how about you take some literature? If she sees you as an adventurer, maybe some sort of travel book.
Second and more importantly, taking a book discourages bad behavior.
In D.C. I have been out with a lot of sassy and “in charge” girls who can be blunt with their words. When I don’t like what I’m hearing, all I have to do is stare hard at my book. She quickly gets the hint that I have other options.
One time I reached for my book when my date was acting retarded, and she said, “Okay I’ll calm down, sorry.”
It’s kind of a nuclear option to get the exact type of behavior you want in a girl and especially works well on the ones who are over-confident (think lawyers).
One last perk of taking books is that it’s no longer a big deal if she’s late. You’ll remain apathetic and aren’t reduced to staring at your phone like an idiot, wondering if you’re being stood up or not. You’ll lose track of time and may even be a little disappointed once she finally arrives because you were in the middle of an exciting part.
For less Westernized and feminized countries you don’t need this move, as I’ve never done it in South America. But in the States I do it all the time.
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It’s big trouble if a girl goes on a trip before you banged her. I don’t know why but something strange happens to a girl’s brain where things “reset” while on the road. She comes back less enthused than ever to get it from a guy who was working on her.
Let me give you a recent example.
I met a girl at a bar and made out with her within a half-hour or so. I tried to seal it that same night but couldn’t due to bad logistics and got the consolation prize of her number instead.
The first time I called her I left a message and she returned my call almost instantly. Not only was I sure she liked me, but that she wanted to see me soon too.
We initially met on a Saturday and agreed to meet for drinks on a Tuesday. On Wednesday she was leaving to Miami for two weeks on business. I knew what I had to do…
After our date ended I suggested to walk her home nearby since I wanted her to “get home safe.” She agreed and we walked to her front door. She asked if I wanted to come in, sparing me the line that would have gotten me in anyway (Bang, page 97).
We’re in her room and things progress from there, but I get healthy doses of resistance. She tells me this is only our fast date, she doesn’t move that fast, blah blah blah.
“No problem,” I tell her. But after a few minutes I’d start back up and get just a bit farther than I did before until she tells me to stop again. This was repeated about eight times over the course of two hours until we were both naked and I banged.
Do I normally break down resistance for two hours like that? Sometimes, but I did it this time because she was leaving the next day. It was my life or death duty to tap that because I knew that this would be my only chance.
Not ten minutes I was out of her house did she call me wanting to say she had a great time, and the next day before her flight she texted me. It was obvious she was strongly attracted to me, and dare I even say that she was crazy about me.
Do you want to guess what happened when she came back? Nothing! I haven’t seen her since! She returned my phone call with a text message and was “so busy” that I eventually gave up.
To me this makes sense. Read the first paragraph again. While I do not know why travel resets things, it almost always does. If you find your girl is leaving for a trip more than a couple days in length, you should push harder than you normally do to seal the deal. You may not get a chance when she returns.
Getting a girl to the bedroom and dealing with resistance is the final stop before you can notch your belt. It makes no difference how well you can attract a girl if you don’t know how to seal the deal. It would be a serious waste of your time and efforts to not finish the job once you’ve already built attraction.
In Bang I have a chapter devoted specifically to “Late Game” that describes all my best techniques for getting the bang. I even explain the optimal order to take off her clothing while you have her in bed. I don’t know any other game book on the market that goes into as much bedroom detail as I do.
If you’re not sure how to deal with a girl’s resistance in bed, or even how to even escalate to nakedness, then check out of my book Bang. In clear yet detailed language it gives you a reliable system of how to go from the kiss to the bang in the least amount of time. Click here to learn more.
First the bad news: no guy gets laid from a coffee shop date. A similar alternative to going on coffee shop dates are ice cream or smoothie dates. Those apply here as well, and may be better suited for the summer months.
During a coffee shop date there are four things you want to keep in mind..
1. The less talking you do the better. Since there is a low chance of transitioning to the bedroom on this date, there’s more you can do to hurt than help. Just be cool and let her do most of the talking.
2. Don’t let it drag on. Even if you two are having a great conversation, you want to end the date within two hours. Definitely don’t go over two hours. Leave her wanting more by ending the date on a good note by saying you have to run. This increases the chances of a date two.
3. Let her order first. By doing this you can avoid having to pay for her drink. Good thing about coffee dates is they are pretty cheap so you don’t have to worry about appearing as a beta male if you pay for her coffee. It’s not like an expensive dinner date.
4. Touch her! You need to warm her up for the next date by doing some subtle touching. This includes touching the jewelry on her fingers and wrists as you ask what they mean, and also some slight touching underneath the table. While these moves don’t do much to increase attraction on their own, the girl won’t be weirded out on the next date when you start getting more intimate. You gradually ramp up touching instead of shocking her system at once.
The whole point of the game, besides some cheap thrills in the sack, is to find the quality girl you deserve instead of having to settle like most guys do. I remember the time when I personally couldn't even have conversations with pretty girls. I would just stare at them and do nothing, hoping that by some miracle of God they would come talk to me first. But they never did.
My problem was part lack of confidence, part fear, and part inexperience. Yet once I decided to take control of the problem, I sucked it up and started approaching girls everywhere like a maniac. That's how I learned by trial and error and came up with an effective system to go from approach to bang, which I describe in my book Bang.
In Bang I teach you everything I learned about girls with a strong focus on approaching and having interesting conversation that creates attraction. Then step-by0step I tell you how to call the girl, take her out on dates, and then finally seal the deal. With my system I'm confident you will eventually meet and bang the one girl that you want for the long-term. Click here to learn more about Bang today.