What To Do When A Girl Flakes On You

Here’s a question I received recently. It’s a long read but worth it because you will likely face this type of scerario.

I need some advice regarding a girl i just met, and i have no clue what to do now. so this is what has happened so far. i was out with some friends this past friday night at some random club, and a group of girls were walking right by us. i tapped the girl who was right next to me and used my new opener, which has been working great. “hey…my friend thinks you’re italian…i think you’re irish…who’s right?” she smiled and said “im irish”.

so we began talking a little and i asked her if she wanted to dance. she agreed and we began grinding (we were standing by the dance floor anyway). while we were dancing, i held her tight and put my face next to hers…i could feel it happening. within moments we were making out, tongue and all.

i asked her if she wanted to sit down, and we went to some nearby bench and began making out heavily, and i was rubbing my hand down her entire leg..and thigh. she asked me if i wanted a shot of tequilla and we went ahead and got one. we came and sat down again and made out for a while, and this time i put my hand into her skirt and attempted to do some finger action. she said “you know im on my period…” so i laughed and slowed down.

i asked for her number and she gave it to me. so we continued kissing for a while and talking. i asked her what she found physically attractive in a guy. she said she went more for personality, and mentioned that she was really impressed that i was in medical school.

so we were hanging out for some time and then she wanted to go see her friends for a little so i went to look for my friends. they wanted to leave the club so i called the girl on her cell and she told me where she was, and then i found her and kissed her goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “ur.sexy” and i text her asking if her and her friends wanted to go out with me and my friends. she texts me back saying something like…”definitely ..we’re down!..call me!”

so saturday comes and i call her around 5ish pm and leave a msg and she texts me back saying shes at work. we continue texting back and forth and she says shell be out by 11pm and out at the bars at 1am. so eventually late at night i call her and she tells me which bar shes at. i bring my friend along and again we talk, get some drinks, and soon start making out by the bar.

later we go for a walk around the block and make out..again..and i put my hands in her pants and she starts moaning and grinding her hips. so we continued walking and talking and kissing and time flew quick. we talked about going on a date to dinner and movies, and she seemed very excited about it.

i checked the time and i told her i had to leave (it was around 2am) at this point we’re a few blocks from the bar where her friends were at, so i tell her that my car is nearby and i can drop her off. as soon as we get in my car we start making out and i put my hands in her pants and into her vagina…i think i felt a tampon? lol. but she kept saying how she hated that she was on her period. so we stop and i drop her off by the bar.

we kiss good bye…she gets out the car..but then jumps back in and kisses me again goodbye. later that night she texts me saying “sexyyy” and “hey sexy call me tomorrow” …i reply something with like “yea we should make plans for our hot date and i want to kiss every part of your body”

so on sunday…i text her asking what shes up to..around the early evening. no reply. i call her monday night, leave a message saying whats up. havent heard back from her.

some random facts: shes like 21 or 22, studying for physical therapy, works at a pizzeria, she seemed REALLY impressed that i’m in medical school, made some references to calling me dr. mcdreamy from the show greys anatomy, and kept making references to how i must be so loaded with money just cuz i drove a lexus.

i didnt tell her that it was my parents’ car. i had a slight, vague notion that she may be a “gold digger-ish” kinda girl. did i do something wrong? should i even call her or text her again?

My Answer:

First, good job on at least the hookup. Not every hookup leads to sex and even if you did something wrong, there is no way to know if that something was the cause of her not getting back in touch with you. Fact is that most hookups don’t go anywhere and that’s why going for sex as soon as possible is important, which is what you did correctly.

The main thing I would have done differently is saved the vagina fingering for inside the bedroom and teased her instead to build up the sexual tension. Other than that, she was reciprocating your attention so I can’t say for sure that you were being too needy. Girls are weird, I know, which is why there is an industry now on trying to get them into bed. Just go out there and do it again.

There is no point in calling or texting her again. If a girl pulls back like that, going into her more with multiple texts and calls will just make you feel worse.

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How To Be Funny To Attract Girls

One day a friend said to me: “If you can make a girl laugh, you’re halfway there.” It’s true that humor is a huge attractant and acts as a tractor beam at hauling in fun girls with a sense of humor. So how exactly do you be funny?

First you need to your research, which is actually the fun part. You need to expose yourself to funny materials to understand the structure of humor. The best way to do this is through funny television shows, movies, and stand-up comedy acts.

The way that I got my humor was through watching Simpsons and Seinfeld, which has humor suitable for the general population and the girls you will hit on. Watching stand-up, such as Dave Chappelle and Chris Rock, will also show you other ways of humor.

Problem is that it’s hard to study humor as you would a subject in school. Your best alternative is to expose yourself to humor and let it “leak” into your personality. It really does start with one joke that you try that makes a girl laugh. You repeat that joke again and add more jokes as you go along. From there it builds and builds into a collection of humor that you can use to attract girls.

Since you’re not going to reinvent the wheel, it’s best to copy other people’s humor first, experiment with it, and then adapt it for your own purposes. There’s no need to sit at home coming up with original jokes when there is so much out there you can “borrow” instead.

Also, when you’re starting out with using humor as a way to build attraction, take it easy and don’t be too heavy on the humor. You’re a pick up artist, not a comedian or entertainer. Instead you just want to use bits of humor here or there to keep the conversation fun and the interaction light. It shouldn’t be the main way you use to attract women.

One last tip is to understand that being funny is a lifelong project, and it’s something you will always work on. Don’t worry if it takes time and definitely don’t stress out if your jokes are falling flat. Even the best comedians bomb every now and then, but we just don’t see it because they test most of their new jokes in small comedy clubs before you see them on television. This is something you’ll always be experimenting with.

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How To Get Girls To Like You

The problem with this question is how it’s framed. Asking how to get girls to like you is like trying to find a magic secret that all of sudden changes how girls see you. It doesn’t work like that.

A better question is “How Do I Build Attraction.” Attraction is that hard-to-describe force which causes a girl to think of you in a sexual or intimate way. There are a lot of different things that builds attraction but let’s discuss a few important ones.

1. Being an alpha male. An alpha male is the type of male that lives much differently from his beta male counterpart, who is scared of girls and passive in chasing them. An alpha male does not concern himself with other people’s opinions of him and does not explain away his faults to others. He goes after what he wants without apology and doesn’t care one way or the other if he gets rejected or not. Being an alpha male is not so much a personality type but a way of life. It’s something you must emulate in the alpha’s you meet in everyday life.

2. Being interesting. One reliable way to built attraction is to be interesting. The only thing is you can’t be interesting unless you are interesting. If you’re doing nothing besides playing video games all then how are you going to have interesting topics to talk discuss when it comes time to talk to a girl you like? The way to be interesting is to do things like read interesting books, explore interesting hobbies, and visit interesting places. There is no shortcut around this.

3. Make her laugh. If you make a girl laugh then you are already halfway there. The effect of making a girl laugh is much different than making a guy laugh. It’s very rare that you will be more attracted to a girl just because she told you a funny joke, but a girl’s brain is constructed differently to where humor will build attraction. What this means to you is you must get rid of your dour and depressed demeanor and take on something that is fun and positive. If you don’t have a sense of humor that it’s time to learn.

Flirting and building attraction is where the magic happens... where she decides that she wants to sleep with you. Unless you have a plan or method for this step, you're working on blind luck. If she doesn't happen to be into your looks, do you know what to do to still get her number, a date, and more? If not then check out my book Bang, which details exactly how to build attraction. Click here to learn more...

How To Get Attractive Women

Before I share advice on how to get attractive women, keep in mind that attractive women are very desirable. The most attractive women in your city or town gets hit on every day by men trying to get into their pants. You have to first ask yourself what you’re bringing to the table, whether it’s stability (in the form of lots of money) or an emotional connection (in the form of “game” and personality).

Since this is not a get rich web site, we’re concerned with how to get attractive women through game and personality. If you hit their buttons in the right way and build attraction, then getting to the bedroom will be automatic.

Here are the three skillsets you MUST learn…

1. How to approach women. You can’t sit back and wait for a woman to approach you, especially if you are average looking like most guys (and myself). If you go to clubs and bars regularly you probably already know that the quality of women that approach you will be much lower than you want. To get the maximum quality of what you deserve, you have to literally walk to the girl you want and start talking, build attraction (see below), and then walk away with a number or date.

2. How to talk. Talking and flirting with girls fall in the topic of “game,” which concerns us with how to build attraction and connection through flirting, routine, and humor. Simply going up to a girl and telling her you think she is cute does very little to build attraction because it doesn’t show your value as a male. You need to build this value up through effective stories and lines that you practice before you talk to the girl.

3. How to seal the deal (how to close). After you’ve approached her and she is interested in you (you’ll know because she keeps talking to you and asking you questions), then it’s time to escalate the encounter to the next level. The most common way of doing that is asking for a phone number, but if you’re at a bar then you can either make out with her or take her back to your place or hers.

She’s not going to escalate the encounter for you unless she is drunk, so it’s your job to ask for the phone number or to get more touchy-feely (hand and shoulder touching) to go in for the kiss.

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