How To Pick Up Girls On The Street

Do girls like being hit on the street by random men?

99% of girls will say no. Actually 100% will say no. The reason is because most men who do it (construction workers, thugs) have horrible street game. In reality girls love being hit on by men who make them feel attraction and give them good conversation, regardless of where it is.

I’m writing this a day after I got the number of an 8/8.5 (according to my friend’s rating), who was walking alone early Tuesday evening in Washington DC. Let me explain how I did it so you can go out there and do it yourself. While you’re reading see if you can pick out the pattern as to why it worked.

While walking on the sidewalk I spotted a very cute girl coming towards me and my friends from the opposite direction. The time was around 8pm. My two friends didn’t know I was going to approach her so they sort of drifted off to the side and talked amongst themselves fifteen feet away while the whole thing happened.

I stopped when she was about five feet away from me and said…

“Excuse me, do you by chance know a good bar to hang out at… one that has more than five guys sitting all sad and lonely?”

She came to a stop and started throwing out names of bars. I playfully shot down all her choices as not being cool and fun enough. In fact I already knew all the bars in the area.

After about 90 seconds of talking about bars I said, “Well, I’m actually looking for bride, a cool chick that I can marry hopefully soon. I was hoping for a place around here where I could find her.”

She laughed and mentioned one more bar name, as if I’d actually find a bride there. I said, “Well we just came from around there and it’s pretty dead tonight. But actually you know what I’m playing… I saw you walking and just wanted to talk to you.” She gave off one of those ‘A-ha I knew it!’ smiles.

The energy of the conversation changed for the better and without too much of a pause I asked her where she was coming from. I completely dropped my initial intention of looking for a bar and just kept the conversation going like I would if I had started talking to her inside one.

I played two quick and fun guessing games:

First: “Judging by your accent, I’m getting a half-German and half-Norwegian vibe.” If you’ve read Bang you’ll see I adapted an opener for use as a routine. She said no, that she’s actually from New York, and I smiled and said, “Are you sure? I don’t know, maybe a little Russian too.”

Second: “And by the way, how old are you?” She replied, “Old enough to get into a club.” I said, “Haha wait wait, you’re that young? No really…” She said “20.” You’ll never meet a young girl who doesn’t like an older man, so I played it up instantly. I said, “Well I hope you like older men, because I’m graying over here.” She said, “Actually I do.”

I asked her where she was going and told her to join us later if she has a fake ID. I added, “Well if I don’t see you tonight, maybe we can get a drink some other time.”

She asked me for my name and I asked for hers and then I took out my cell phone. She gave me her number. We talked for about seven minutes total.

If this looked easy that’s because it was. The only weird thing about it was seeing an attractive girl like that walking alone in D.C.

Let’s identify the key reasons to why my approach worked.

1. DISARM. The street has a lot of crazies, so you need to disarm her in the first second and let her know you are a cool, normal guy. You do this with very relaxed body language, starting off with “Excuse me,” talking slow, and asking for help. It’s hard for anyone to resist helping someone, and if you’ve ever been a tourist in a strange land you’ll understand the human desire to be helpful. This is our “in.”

2. GET OVER THE HUMP. In street game there is a 30 second hump. If she stops to talk to you for half-a-minute then she can stop and talk indefinitely. I shot down her bar choices so the clock would keep ticking.

3. MAKE HER LAUGH. It doesn’t have to be with great jokes, but you need to keep the energy light and fun, like you would in any other pickup. I used the “bride” joke which I made up on the spot. A couple jokes are okay but don’t turn this into comedy hour. When she recommends bars, I would say something like, “Oh that’s too yuppie” or “Hmm yeah that bar has scary people in it.”

4. SEGUE. Your typical street game approach needs a segue that goes from talking about bars or whatever you opened with to talking about each other. In this case I did that by saying, “I just wanted to talk to you,” followed by a question that ended up teasing her.

Maybe you’re thinking, “Roosh, but isn’t this more of direct game? I thought you only advocate indirect game.”

Saying you wanted to talk her is barely direct. It’s NOT like saying, “Actually I saw how beautiful you were and I just had to talk to you.” That’s too much.

If the girl is giving you a really strong vibe you can try this: “Actually I say you walking and just wanted to flirt with you.” She may get a warm-and-fuzzy feeling inside and think, “Yes! This random guy who I think I like probably likes me too.”

5. BUILD ATTRACTION. Once you are done with the segue, build the attraction a little more with teasing. Ask basic questions about herself or do guessing games like I did.

6. CLOSE. This is where you use your initial opener to close her. For example say it’s during the day and on your college campus you ask for the best place to have ice cream. When it’s time to close say, “Well I have to run, but how about some time soon we try so-and-so ice cream shop.”

If you asked her where there’s a good pizza place, then you would close by suggesting you two have pizza some time. It feels natural that you called back your opener. On this girl I used bars to open, so for me the close was asking to hang out for a drink.

It’s not a bad idea to go for the instant date if it seems like she doesn’t have anywhere to go. I asked my girl where she was headed and she said to meet up with friends, so I knew there would be no instant date option.

If your girl doesn’t seem to be doing anything then ask her if she wants to join you for the ice cream, the pizza, or the drink then and there. If she declines, say, “That’s fine, how about some other time?” and then take out your cell phone. If you’re talking to a girl for at least three minutes on the street and she asks you a question, you’d be a fool not to go for some sort of close. Just pull the trigger and ask her out.

This is as easy as it sounds. Now go out there and try it.

If you’re looking for some more help on approaches and how to build attraction, then I recommend my book Bang. It has 64 pages on Early Game that focus exclusively on the approach and what to say immediately after. I share dozens of conversation tips with tons of word-for-word examples, and I also teach you the concept of threads to keep the interaction going without having awkward silences. Click below to learn more about Bang today.

Is Your Venue Selection Flawed?

There’s only one way to find out if you’re method of finding girls is paying off, and that’s to look at your past results. I want you to take part in this exercise and open up a new spreadsheet in Excel.

On the first column list the bars or clubs you have frequented the most in the last four years, especially ones you’ve gotten laid from. If you have gotten laid from a non-alcoholic venue like a particular coffee shop then include that in the list too.

In the second column estimate as best as you can the number of times you’ve been to each place during those four years.

In the third column list the number of times you’ve banged a girl that you met at each venue.

Finally in the fourth column divide the two numbers to get a success rate percentage.

Is the highest percentage venue the one you go to most often?

Let’s take this a step further. In the fifth column put down a dollar amount that is your average cost for a night out at each venue.

In the sixth column multiply columns two and five to get total money spent.

Then lastly in the seventh column divide columns six and three, to get the average cost per notch from each venue. Surprised?

I lamented the close of Dragonfly, the Washington DC venue I banged quite a few of women at, but I’ve been so many times that turns out my success rate there was rather pitiful and my cost per notch astronomical at five times higher than the next best venue.

There is even a bar that is one of my current favorites that the numbers don’t justify I visit while a bar across the street that I often skip has yielded much better fruit.

Why do I continue to select venues against my best interests? I don’t know but the numbers don’t lie, no matter how much I think one place is better than the next.

While bars and clubs are the dominant venues I talk about my book Bang, in the Appendix I share advice on how to pick up girls in other situations like on the street, from a car, in a coffee shop, and in the gym.

Have you ever had the problem where you saw a girl you liked, but didn’t know how to have a conversation with her? Well that’s the exact problem Bang solves, by giving you tons of lines that you can use almost anywhere. If you’re looking for a game resource that helps you talk to women, then click here to read sample pages of Bang today.

My Brutal Rejection On The Subway

I was out on a Saturday night at some lame club that my friend dragged me too. I approached two different girls but it was just so loud that I couldn’t hear anything. The conversations died out quickly.

On my way home I was still in the mood to talk to girls since I couldn’t do it at the club. An opportunity presented itself when I went down the escalator of the subway and saw a pretty girl standing alone.

I couldn’t have made it more obvious that I was going to approach after I positioned myself right next to her, but there was no “smooth” way around it.

I waited no more than five seconds. Any longer and I just would’ve started to psych myself out. She was in what seemed to be gym shorts so I said, “It doesn’t seem like you went out tonight.”

“Actually I did but I changed so I wouldn’t look like a whore on the way home.”

Now that’s called “giving encouragement,” where the girl gives a rich answer that lets me take the conversation all sorts of places. My subsequent comments were about the weekend being amateur hour and the horrible club I just came from. She took out a packet of gum and I asked for a piece.

The train came and she went in first. I was very casual about the whole thing as there was less urgency to fill every silence since there were no distractions like in a bar. Once inside the train I sat near her.

She had a smart ass sense of humor so it was easy to tease her, about her young age and the mosquito bites on her legs. I jokingly asked if she was “intimidated to be talking to an older man,” one of my favorite lines. She responded by asking my age.

“What stop do you get off?” I said. I wanted to see how much more time I had. It wasn’t much so I decided to go for the number. Nine times out of ten, based on the fun conversation we had and her asking me a personal question, I’m getting a number.

In fact I thought the number was such a sure thing that I was already thinking of logistics on how to get out this college girl who doesn’t have a car.

I told her we should hang out for a drink and her reply was, “Haha no.” She laughed at me. There was other passengers around and they all saw this, though they did not make a noise.

I said, “Wow, well, you could have lied and said you had a boyfriend.”

“Well I do have a boyfriend, blah blah blah.”

The stop came and I smiled and told her to have a good night. There’s no point in getting upset, especially since this approach will make it easier for me to do more subway approaches. After a few minutes the burn of her rejection in front of a small crowd wore off and I felt fine.

Now I’m more motivated to chat up girls on the subway since I know the odds are in my favor. 98% of guys never even ask a girl for her number on the subway.

There are two types of guys: those who let rejection get them down and those who use it as fuel to feed the fire. I’m the latter, because I know that part of the game is a numbers game. For every couple rejections there is a success. If you stop at a rejection then you stopped too soon.

Having this belief is the reason why I was able to amass such a large amount of experience that led to the writing of my book Bang, where all the hundreds of approaches I’ve made has allowed me to map out a sound and reliable pickup system.

Every week I get a dozen emails from guys whose lives have improved because of the teachings I share in it, many of which you’ve seen in my Q&A newsletters. If you want to learn more, click the link below to read sample pages from Bang.

How To Pick Up Girls At A Bar

The easiest place to find girls to pick up is also the hardest. The reason? Well even though bars and clubs offer a dense population of single females in a small amount of space, there is a handful of things that are working against you, such as…

1. Cockblockers. You think her friends are going to let you sweep her off her feet? You’ll be lucky if you can get in a ten minute conversation before the friend pulls her away.

2. Noise. Especially in the clubs, it can be very hard to have a normal conversation with a girl. So that leaves the dance option available, but talking is the best choice to build a connection. Unless she is attracted to your look she will get bored of dancing and then go on to the next guy.

3. Alcohol. Now this is a double edged sword. On one hand it makes both you and the girl you are talking to more social, but after a certain point the girls will get so drunk so at best you will get a sloppy makeout. It will be rare a drunk girl’s friend will let you take her home (see number 1), and getting her phone number will be useless since she’ll forget about you the next day.

4. Other guys. I still haven’t found a bar that regularly has more girls than guys. Chances are you will be competing against a whole lot of desperate guys and unless you approach often you will be lost in this sea of sausage. It’s not hard to separate yourself from them if you stand out from the crowd with your own style and game, but it does mean you have to put some work into it.

5. Time. Unless you live in a large metropolitan area, the only times you can find a decent number of girls in bars or clubs is on the weekends. So that means you wait the entire week to talk to a girl for a few hour window come Friday night.

Even with all those negative, there are many pick up artists getting laid at nightspots. Lucky for you that 90% of guys have absolutely no game. They just hold the wall up with their warm beer hoping girls talk to them. So here’s my five best tips to approach in bars and clubs:

1. Play the numbers game. When you are approaching girls in the daytime, it can happen that you get an email or number from each girl you approach, but at night the odds are stacked against you. To battle that you need to concentrate on quantity, especially until you build you game up. Don’t leave the house unless you have an intent to approach at least 10 girls, and actually count as you do your approaches.

2. Use funny openers. Funny openers work much better at night. A good one to use is to pick a celebrity you kind of look like, then go up to a group of girls and say, “Hey guys, do I look like *celebrity*.” After they answer, tell them you were wondering because the last girl you talked said you looked like him and you weren’t sure if she was serious or joking around.

3. Touch touch touch. Girls who are intoxicated are much more receptive to touching than sober girls. Take advantage of that by touching often as you pass the 10 and 15 minute mark of the conversation. Good places are her shoulder and small of her back. As you get deeper into the conversation and she responds positively, you can start touching her hands.

4. Go for the make out, not the number. It’s a fools game to go for numbers in bars because the chance she will return your first call is pretty low. In fact if 33% of your numbers call back then you are dealing very well. Okay there are exceptions. If you’ve been talking to her for hours and you have an incredible connection, then by all means go for the phone number, but in that case you should be getting the make out first. Shoot for the ceiling first, and treat the number as a backup prize.

5. Remember this is just a game. There really is no reason to hesitate approaching or experimenting in a bar or club, the last place where you should be nervous or scared about anything. If you bomb, do you really think the girls are going to remember you a day from now? Even if you get a number after talking to her for 15 minutes they might forget you! Bottom line is treat it like a game, don’t give a shit, and keep approaching girls until you are either exhausted or come home with something.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. There is nothing natural or easy about walking up to a girl you don't know and talking to her in a way that makes her laugh, builds attraction, and ends with her giving you her phone number.

After approaching hundreds of different girls with all types of openers, I finally settled on two that are my "defaults," meaning they are powerful enough that I can use them regardless of the girl or the environment. I share them in my book Bang, along with others you can use for bars, clubs, daytime spots, and even the gym. It has 64 pages on Early Game that focus exclusively on the approach and what to say immediately after. I share dozens of conversation tips with tons of word-for-word examples, and I also teach you the concept of threads to keep the interaction going without having awkward silences.

You can take the time to make up openers on your own, experimenting over the next several months, or you can learn mine and get started using something that works off the bat. If you want to learn my favorite natural openers that are easy to use and actually work, click here to learn more about my book Bang today.