How To Pick Up Girls Who Speak A Different Language

Here’s a reader question about trying to pick up girls who speak a different language.

Roosh,

In Miami most of my potential victims have little or no english skills. My spanish is borderlines on caveman, but I understand plenty and are able to get me needs understood. What do you think?

My Answer:

Four options:

1. Learn Spanish. Go to Isohunt and download the Pimsleur Spanish courses
2. Bring along a prop. Maybe a dog? Tarot cards?
3. Set up a crude palm reading stand. I image that would be fun
4. Find a new place to meet girls!

I feel your pain though: you have this untapped supply of women and you can do nothing about it. I had this same problem in South America but i was doing this in bars and clubs. The music made the pauses less painful and there was alcohol and a dance floor to help things. I found that a digital camera to show them pictures showed my value while continuing the interaction.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. Unless you know what you are doing it will take hundreds of tries to get master it through trial and error (I should know because that's how I learned). If you're working on your approaching skills then check out my book Bang, which tells you how to do it from start to end. Click here to learn more...

How To Pick Up Girls On The Street

Picking up girls on the street is easier than you think. The first thought that comes to your mind may be, “Girls don’t feel comfortable being hit on the street by random men.” Maybe, maybe not, but girls love being hit on by men who make them feel attraction and give them good conversation, which is what we’re going to do.

I’m writing this a day after I got the number of an 8/8.5 (according to my friends rating) who was walking alone late early Tuesday evening in Washington DC. Let me explain how I did it so you can go out there and do it yourself. While you’re reading see if you can pick out the pattern to why it worked.

I spot a very cute girl walking towards us from the opposite direction. The time was around 8pm. My two friends didn’t know I was going to approach her so they sort of drifted off to the side and talked amongst themselves fifteen feet away while the whole thing happened.

I stopped when she was about five feet away from me and said, “Hey, do you by chance know a good place to hang out around… a bar that has more than five guys?”

She smiles and comes to a stop. Then she starts throwing out the name of bars. I playfully shot down all her choices as not being cool and fun enough. In fact I already knew all the bars in the area.

After about 90 seconds of talking about places to go, I said, “Well, me and my friends are looking for a bride, a cool chick that maybe we can marry hopefully soon. We were hoping one of these bars would do it.” She laughed. Then she mentioned one more bar name. I said, “We just came from around there and it’s pretty dead tonight. But actually you know what… I saw you walking and just wanted to flirt with you.” She gave off one of those ‘A-Ha I knew it!’ smiles.

The energy of the conversation changed for the better and without too much of a pause I asked her where she was coming from. I completely dropped my initial intention of looking for a bar and just kept the conversation going like I would if I started talking to her inside one.

I played two quick and fun guessing games:

First: “Judging by your accent, I’m getting a half-German and half-Norwegian vibe.” If you’ve read Bang you’ll see I adapted an opener for use as a routine. She says no, she’s actually from New York, and I smile and say, “Are you sure? I don’t know, maybe a little Russian too.”

Second: “And by the way, how old are you?” She replied, “Old enough to get into a club.” I said, “Haha wait wait, you’re that young? No really…” She says 20. You’ll never meet a young girl who doesn’t like an older man, so I played it up instantly. I said, “Well I hope you like older men, because I’m greying over here.” She said, “Actually I do.”

I ask her where she is going and tell her to join us later if she has a fake ID. I add, “Well if I don’t see you tonight, next time I come out I can text you so we can meet up.” This is a “soft” close in that I don’t explicitly ask for the date like I would normally do. It’s one of those judgment calls you’ll make, but based on my experience and her vibe it seemed like the best option. She asked me for my name and I asked for hers and then I took out my cell phone. She told me her number. We talked for about seven minutes total.

If it looks easy that’s because it was easy. Only thing is that it’s rare to see very attractive girls walking like that in DC alone. So guys only do street game approaches on Friday or Saturday nights on drunk girls in big groups. You won’t get anywhere doing that and that’s where many guys develop a “Street game doesn’t work” belief.

Let’s identify the key reasons why my approach worked.

1. DISARM. The street has a lot of crazies, so you need to disarm her in the first second and let her know you are just a cool guy. You do this with very relaxed body language, talking slow, and asking for help. It’s hard for anyone to resist helping someone, and if you’ve ever been a tourist in a strange land you’ll understand the human desire to be helpful. This is our “in.”

2. GET OVER THE HUMP. In street game there is a 30 second hump. If she stops to talk to you for half a minute then she can stop and talk indefinitely. I shot her bar choices down so the clock would keep ticking.

3. MAKE HER LAUGH. It doesn’t have to be with great jokes, but you need to keep the energy light and fun, like you would in any other pick up. I used the “bride” joke which I made up on the spot (and actually have used since then). A couple jokes are okay but don’t turn this into comedy hour. When she recommended bars, I would say something like, “Oh that’s too yuppie” or “Hmm yeah that bar has scary people in it.”

4. BOLD MOVE. Every street game approach needs the bold move, a statement of intent which tells her that you are not actually looking for help but want to get to know her. You must make this shift!! Or else it will come across as weird that you need help and all of a sudden asking for her number. Note that we don’t necessarily do this in bar game (instead we just start touching).

“Roosh, but isn’t this more of direct game? I thought you only advocate indirect game.”

Street game is one of those exceptions, but keep in mind that saying you want to flirt with her is barely direct. It’s not like saying, “Actually I saw how beautiful you were and I just had to talk to you.” That’s too much. If you don’t know how comfortable you feel telling her you wanted to flirt with her, try this instead: “Actually I saw you walking towards me and I just wanted to talk to you.” Same idea. If you already sense some attraction, like I did, going a little more direct gives her that warm-and-fuzzy feeling inside, where she thinks, “Yes! This random guy who I think I like probably likes me too.”

5. BUILD ATTRACTION. Once you are done with the statement of intent, build the attraction a little more with teasing. To set the stage for that, ask basic questions about herself, or do guessing games like I did.

6. CLOSE. This is where you use your initial opener to close her. For example say it’s during the day and on your college campus you ask for the best place to have ice cream. When it’s time to close say, “Well I have to to run, but how about some time soon we try so-and-so ice cream shop.” If you asked her for a pizza place, then you would ask her if she wants to have pizza some time. It feels natural that you called back your initial question. I used bars on this girl, so for me it was saying to hang out for a drink.

It’s not a bad idea to go for the instant date. I asked my girl where she was headed and she said to meet up with friends, so I knew there was no instant date. If your girl doesn’t seem to be doing anything then ask her if she wants to join you for the ice cream, the pizza, or the drink. If she declines, say, “That’s fine, how about some other time?” If she agrees, take out your cell phone. If you’re talking to a girl for at least three minutes on the street you’d be a fool not to go for some sort of close. Just pull the trigger and go for it.

This is as easy as it sounds. Go out and do it.

If you’re looking for some more help on how approaches are structured and what to say during the conversation, then I recommend my book Bang. It has 64 pages on Early Game that focus exclusively on the approach and immediate conversation. I share dozens of conversation ideas and teach you the concept of threads to keep things going without having an awkward silence. For more on the book click here…

Is Your Venue Selection Flawed?

There’s only one way to find out if you’re way of finding girls is paying off, and that’s to look at your past results. I want you to take part in this exercise and open up a new spreadsheet in Excel.

On the first column list the top bars or clubs you have been to the last four years, especially ones you’ve gotten laid from. If you have gotten laid from a non-alcoholic venue like a particular coffee shop then include that in the list too. In the second column estimate as best as you can the number of times you’ve been there during that four years.

In the third column list the number of times you’ve banged a girl that you met at each venue. Then in the fourth column divide the two numbers to get a success rate percentage.

Is the highest percentage bars your most frequented bars?

Let’s take this a step further. In the fifth column put down a dollar amount that is your average cost for a night out at each venue. In the sixth column multiply columns two and five to get total money spent. Finally, in the seventh column divide columns six and three, to get the average cost per notch from each venue.

I lamented the close of Dragonfly, the Washington DC venue I shagged a ton of women at, but I’ve been so many times that turns out my success rate there was rather pitiful and my cost per notch astronomical at five times higher than the next best venue.

There is even a bar that is one of my current favorites that the numbers don’t justify as such while a bar across the street I skip has yielded much better fruit. How could I so easily continue to select venues against my best interests? It’s like my brain has blind spots which prevent me from going after my best interests.

The numbers don’t lie, no matter how much you think one place is better than the next.

The limit to where we can meet women exists only in our heads. While bars and clubs are the dominant venues I talk about my book Bang, in the Appendix I share advice on how to pick up girls in other situations, like on the street, from a car, in a coffee shop, and in the gym. If you are under 21 then I think you’ll find the Appendix to be especially useful.

Approaching is the hardest part of the game. Unless you know what you are doing it will take hundreds of tries to get master it through trial and error (I should know because that's how I learned). If you're working on your approaching skills then check out my book Bang, which tells you how to do it from start to end. Click here to learn more...

How Sort Of Not To Pick Up Girls On The Subway

I was out on a Saturday night at some lame club my friend dragged me too. It was so loud I couldn’t hear anything and I had trouble believing that people go to clubs to meet people. (Maybe I’m just getting old.) I approached two different girls but it was so hard to maintain conversations that they just died out.

I was still in the mood to talk to girls on my way home since I couldn’t do it at the club, so when I went down the escalator and saw a pretty girl standing alone I had to do something. I couldn’t have made it more obvious that I was going to talk to her when I positioned myself beside her, but there was no “smooth” way of bypassing less empty spots to stand next to her. (In fact there is no evidence that making a smooth approach increases your odds of success.)

I waited no more than 5 seconds. Any longer and you just start to psych yourself out. She was in what seemed to be gym shorts so said, “It doesn’t seem like you went out tonight.”

“Actually I did but I changed so I wanted look like a whore on the way home.”

Now that’s called “giving encouragement,” where the girl gives a rich answer that lets me take it all sorts of places. My next comments were about the weekend being amateur hour and the horrible club I just came from. She took out a piece of gum and I asked for a piece.

The train came and she went in first. I was very casual about the whole thing. There were no distractions like in a bar so there is less of that urgency to fill every silence. Once inside the train I sat near her and since she wasn’t going anywhere there was no worry of her walking away.

She had a smart ass sense of humor so it was easy to tease her, about her young age and the mosquito bites on her legs. I jokingly asked if she was “intimidated to be talking to an older man,” one of my favorite lines.

I asked her what stop she gets off and since it was one away I decided to go for the number. Nine times out of ten, based on the fun conversation we had, I’m getting a number. In fact I thought the number was such a sure thing that I was already thinking of logistics on how to get out this college girl who doesn’t have a car.

I told her we should hang out for a drink and her reply was, “Haha no.” She laughed at me. There was other passengers around and they saw all this, though they did not make a noise.

I said, “Wow, well, you could have lied and said you had a boyfriend.”

“Well I do have a boyfriend, blah blah blah.” Take a few seconds to think about a girl who would put down a guy instead of telling the truth. With her smart ass personality I guess I wasn’t too surprised.

The stop came and I smiled and told her to have a good night. There’s no point in getting upset, especially since this approach will make it easier for me to do more subway approaches. After a few minutes the burn of her rejection in front of a small crowd wore off and I felt fine. Now I’m more motivated to chat up girls on the subway since I know the odds are way in my favor. 98% of guys in DC never even get up to the point of asking a girl for their number on the subway.

There are two types of guys: those who let rejection get them down and those who use it as fuel to feed the fire. I’m the latter, because I know that part of the game is a numbers game. For every couple rejections there is a nice success. If you stop at a rejection then you stopped too soon.

Having this belief is the reason why I was able to amass such a large amount of experience that led to the writing of Bang, where all the hundreds of approaches I made led to so much success that I was able to pick out the patterns and distill my knowledge into a practical guide. My book makes your learning curve shorter than mine. Click here to learn more.